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Title: My Inheritance: A Talk on Personal Wealth Management | Celton Hayden | TEDxLPLDenhamSpringsWalker
Published: 2017-08-25
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SyJX9Wka_1A
as I sit down and I talked to my my lotus on especially on society just you just don't know where I'm coming from when I talk about put your things away or take care of what you earn or take care what's given to you especially %HESITATION when I talk about the government cheese in your story specially they reminded me of it you ought to see this
look on his face I just think some come from Pluto somewhere and I'm really not qualified to talk about by planetary objects with %HESITATION but I try to convey to him the stories then how much children that could help them navigate the path that I've already lived for them how how often do you tell me does your parents if you just write your child's life down
in a book close it give it to him and say just everything on every page you'll be alright do you realize that some other told you the same thing you ignored it but it's still stories I want talk about today so first off anything are something you just fell victim to the terror acts bait and switch I'm not gonna talk about money but I'm going to
write well I'm not gonna talk about stocks bonds but I am going to talk about is your bits that can be traded today I'm gonna talk about my inheritance those stories that I tell my son someone told me so make a super primacy you gonna leave her richer the day we walked I'm not gonna figure wallet but hopefully I feel your heart I'm not going to
make a deposit in the bank account but maybe I can deposit something SO hopefully between the time that I leave the stage and when I see you again you've been able to deposit the same thing with somebody else's life my dad talked to me in phrases he was a super guy second grade education construction foreman worked his whole life into rheumatoid arthritis separated his wrists from
you can live a hammer so he had to say goodbye my mother housekeeper virtually her entire life fifty five years order of single family she graduated high school support all of her energy that she didn't give to us she gave to a church nursing cells so if you get a little preacher vibe going on trust Nelson's one last my legs were going to close in a
little too much the following Bahama mama but one day I'll I'll get it but do some do some forming you comfortable close your eyes but just go with the magic pick your ten year old black boy growing up in the oak cliff section of Dallas tex I just described to you his mother minutes following now imagine the love and the discipline that exists in our home
the nurturing caretaker that runs right along parallel to what may be lacking in education what may be lacking and how many nights someone could sit with you and help you with your homework think about being gassed the hang your clothes up so you can wear them tomorrow think about going to the grocery store to get your tennis shoes when someone else goes to the mall think
about it and I know everyone in this room can speak to this yeah just because your brother warning system worked I mean it's not good enough for you imagine fast for twenty three the young man you're not fully grown still look stupid that was me and your father is nearing the end of his life he lays there you can't move he begins to think about what
is he going to leave he didn't have the money there is no legacy there's no company to pass on we doesn't realize is that he's already made for the pop it's those phrases it's those moments of catching you when you're Slippin and he puts some words in your ear so I found myself will password eatery in well past the point that he was gone and my
son would ask me we have what what what's the throw Cotchery why do you talk like that or folks I work with would say you need to write that down because it makes kinda weird so today my time with you all walk you through just the small collection of those things that have shaped me hopefully at the end of my talk with you you can take
those deposits take the lessons learned from each of them and be able to apply them to your life first warn see if you still felt itself law sure you remember that one no rhyme I'm not alone whose district that was one of the strangest things ever first I know was how was I had to Google it the other day to figure out how to spell it
but when I was being taught patients deviate from your course six thirty your course he would often apply this when I would come in and I would have really drummed up support for one thing I wanted him to be my champion all and I want to play basketball go out there and coach did put me on the team and my basketball wouldn't dribble anymore he wanted
to teach me a lesson the still saga so fucking pick up this job myself get ready going to brother gone a week you because you never know coach might call you back you might even that close to make committee so that deposit today I apply and what I do in my role now I'm often seen a cool to patients hello to forgive her a little too
slow why don't we have certain things in our business impaired to somebody else but with this lesson applied is never filled me some hope take something from that next everyone hurts this everyone is hurt prepare for war batons apiece the lesson here wasn't diligence dad had this thing no matter where we were what was going on a what you have planned in the day you would
not allow seven o'clock you would hear from the other side of the house this two bedroom house Gennaro his voice was here in Amman it would shake the walls of the house Joe the floor was that meet he don't care what you did as long as she swung her legs off over put him on the floor start your day towards a routine look at this and
that of the pictures on the sly are US military what why do they drill so much every day I heard the story out of my own own radio few weeks ago this golf tournament the greatest legacy of alarms were was in the marines and learn how to make a space it wouldn't learn how to use a weapon it wasn't learn how to use heavy machinery it
wasn't the skills of how to use the computers in the radars it was making his they had simple preparations for your day soon will apply to your life though I had edge of success is the intersection of preparation and opportunity if you're not ready for when something happens who's to blame our sales a man finds something and he sticks with it now full disclosure he really
meant this about my mom okay my dad could not stand if one of his five boys or or any collection of us walking boasting about how many ladies we would no that wasn't his thing at the age of sixteen he found his wife at a water well ask her couldn't draw water for your vision drew it and are still married today that's the consistency that's the
status of your decision that he was trying to convey to me and I think about the folks in this room in in in very very desperate way wide variety the diversity diversity of what you're experiencing right now steadiness in resolving you are deploying in your everyday life for yourselves your families your neighbors your friends your co workers your employees of sticking with live next have laughed
you back you try or or not you give up on auto center morning a full race only go down home depot you get those two sheets sheet rock which had enough money to get he get back at it how's the line at Walmart the other day and I've watched the walmarts not fully Khloe back right not as full stock with everyone's not fully some buzz plus
the behind a family who was buying pots pay dish towels some haven mops up with that's it that's it best the steadiness steps to resolve it expressed everyday in the fitness of this parish the citizens of every city within the spares and certain with people there in this room status that's the lesson learned the deposit a man finds something sticks with the lesson learned was stated
show him think about it the last stop you stop all Jimmy was going to take out the trash but I thought it would turn out different I thought if I did this then this what happened for me I thought it was somebody else's job I thought the government was gonna can take care for me my flight experience I thought back home in the number the boat
will come did my dad was trying to teach me personal accountability responsibility if the outcome that you are experiencing is so profound it you begin the question how did I get here you gotta ask yourself a question what did I do to start it this way now sometimes you just walk into a bare patch right blindly sometimes maybe you're you let it but in both those
scenarios you have full site mine he had the power know your disposal so my dad would teach me much like in this picture depicted here in that moment where the decision has to be made have to make the commitment be accountable and be responsible for you word shit actions you de still with Frank Ivana if you don't you better who's heard there we go average show
this until it's the working people get it if you don't you better for me on a house coffee it was tough for me in two ways the way my mom in a way by Monday and my mom she what office in the living room we had a rickety metal door frame door here vice Ghanem aluminum with this screen it's gonna hanging off the front of a
noble slap slap slap that was the signal that you kids going outside okay it will slap slap slap slap slap slap slap what does that mean is that your conditioning outside so mama will come in if you don't you better if they help pick one sub run up like P. get out my pocket I would often hear that from my dad it most often will come
up and heading out for school based on what you are going on today are animatics I did go do I studied I don't know if you don't about pay signing over a job a bit Kroeber yes Sir yes Sir yes Sir you don't get it hope you don't you better movements the determination why would you ever allow sequel solitary colonel of energy to exist in your
body doubt yourself short of what may not be available to you by physics I cannot jump in land in one of those black holes from the stage it's not gonna happen but I can set my sights on a goal that I've measured qualified and who give it and don't allow myself to think otherwise so if you don't you better was a morning by morning refrain with
my dad so we have taken to the hospital have something to show for your money still with me you heard that one it's not about things snug well if it's not about possessions it's not about the job you want far that they have across the street well how fit you see on a celebrity on television it's not about the money that you put towards Disney world
it's about what those four people anonymous pitchers my daughter and my grandchild but it's what is behind the smile put your money where your heart is put your money where your values are and it's about your purpose I'm not talkin in every iteration is its spiritual is it all about giving back don asked us to be mighty I look at that picture of my family and
I have a mighty conviction we talked about it last night could we possibly said something for fame look across generations that every claim that's formed from mine now find something that sticks with it and pass it on so could we get back to that same spot limit Boulevard take that picture with a family that goes further and further and further and for put your money where
your values are so the collusion my parents is now my gift to you hope somewhere in there there was something that made you laugh probably make you scratch it Hey probably didn't move me further from that I don't know this guy he's kind of weird but maybe I'll helping changes tired arrange another where lance but for me ultimately I want to make sure talk about patients
with you diligent's accountability responsibility determination and purpose each of you every day our opening your eyes on god's world you're doing that in this parish Jake talked about earlier businesses leaving I'm proud to say we're coming here I woke up everyday it's moving here two thousand six with a commitment bring a coffee shop that you would actually like here it's those types of things all the
termination that makes us a citizen of this parish very very unique so great if the chutzpah it's a shoe leather but I just don't see other places you see your faces VR busy hands paces villagers accountability responsibility termination and purpose my dad reaches out to you seven three years on this earth a life steeled into a sly hurts six phrases in fifteen minutes not enough thank
