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Published: 2017-08-25
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pNQTPbOn7zo
example a person in this room at this moment does the end of the stock I'm gonna give you three things first moving over your break up second making your first million top from jumping on this college let's get started so are some day on the start of it someday %HESITATION iveco I woke up last night I woke up yesterday and was and I thought that you
know I wanna buy a %HESITATION hundreds of millions of you know I thought this is good I have a crush on this girl %HESITATION intended to %HESITATION blindly I have this %HESITATION vague good or stuff we don't buy from me will be someday it apparently some days not on the calendar if you think of getting that someday it's not gonna come to you so you get
to the some days the some days and all this on nothing just nothing but the quantum off your imagination to what's things is this things which you keep thinking about all of obtaining a fits evening of dreaming of missing what about Italy at the end of day it's is James which you're having and calling them some days so how do you get to that goal and
how do you get to what you want for that you have a very cool thing because delegates so on pretty simple to small word but targets actually the key are enablers for you to go in on anything for you to actually get to anywhere you want of for example I don't know if I want something in life you know if I want to buy a million
dollar Cairo if I wanna you know probably I'll have a good guy did in life while you do something I would not do this you know tango fit I were not just think of what to do but I would actually set targets you say because you seem Zucker but give me give me an example of soccer but you know you have a target you have to
want to be died then you have the first version and then you lost a product he has deep set forward with for Facebook and that's a Facebook came out nothing could aid that was ever been was not was busy without targets every specific thing even in this whole call room which is sitting this auditorium this whole dead set up it was all done with the docket
you know the dog it's a something which I really going to matter when you think of me achieving something in life move often targets let's head the driving forces so everything that you do in life everything that you want to do %HESITATION is always affected by driving force probably in all the loss of someone told me all you know the criticism that your face probably are
probably in all your lack of %HESITATION finances stuff you want financial independence you want to be famous he wanted me something at all and all the driving forces that actually nothing but interlinked with emotions so every thing that you do everything that is pushing you towards achieving something is basically about all your emotions in that particular situation if you feel it too happy you would want
to celebrate if you're feeling to know you would want to cry when it so that is every driving force which isn't forcing you to do an action or do any action is basically a driving force pushing you towards doing that something now more echo from dying forces emotions emotions clearly drawn in your journey from going from dog being somebody to becoming somebody that you want every
emotion counts in this zoning and all you have sadness he of despair you have loneliness solitude you have your days when you would go down you have days when you're too high so apparently everything comes on the emotions and one of the very strong emotion which is out there right now is love and love can be good and can be a good version it can be
a bad version but love is always good a case the outcome of not was actually affects you know do things now one call from the motions let's talk about love and heartbreak the most cliche doping in this room right now so less of a loving heart makes is your love you rounded room so if you if you need somebody have or if you're so over break
up in cash or you know so it's it's all leading to was making a force millions if you keep peace carefully this so if you so I knew when you love somebody and I love doesn't really work out after that love and you blame that love that because of that love it was not good the time was not good the person was not good when you
love somebody you don't tell me you know there's no measure of something we should do it is not a calculation sheet or evaluation secret person there's no value since he's proposing find out where you just fall in love with them and our debt at that point of time it all feels and I do know it feels good and it all feels like a beautiful joining but
when that thing ends when that particular %HESITATION you know that beaded of relationship ends it results in a heart breaker and that heartbreak is devastating for you you step on that heartbreak now you can move forward from that are big enough and does he have a easy thing forcing you to Steve stay on that hot big every now and then so that is also on where
we are actually seeking so let's think of it may simply when you're in love you listen to anything greater heartbreak is not listening to anything so that's a whole different C. infectivity loving heart beat right soon apparently the whole point is %HESITATION if you're in love %HESITATION if you're in love you can do good stuff it all with your partner I mean you can achieve something
with somebody on your way what and I love drops out and only the heartbreak remains you are alone you are you crying you I love you go sad and you want to achieve something and you're looking to is that going in that way things become really depressing now things start getting depressing for you the moment I start getting depressing for you you get this part of
quitting that particular %HESITATION you know object what you're doing you know the objective of what you're doing to start planning on quitting that particular thing because you start getting depressed and everything even if it's not working out too and Max India step forth your heart break and you step foot in relationship that it's going to be it's falling off apparently he is the whole point is
that well the whole point when I'm trying to see it to pick from here from love and heartbreak is that when you're in love it's good when it's over it's even better how I told you so see you when you have a breakup it's actually pushing you to what's your blood to be a better person in life now so when you're done with the breakup it
happens for a reason I think probably the timing was not try it it was not supposed to happen because in the end if something is actually supposed to happen at fault and please you can't really put your effort to manipulate elation sip and make it work today and no one talks unless your license if so let's talk about the million dollars so after heartbreak you city
or offer anything that you go through any emotion that you go through it all this jeans which happens a change which is positive it could be negative it could be a confusing factor and your graph chart it could be anything change is something which drives you towards achieving that goal in life what you really want to achieve so for example %HESITATION if I if I you
know they don't take anything as an example to hook so front if you had a break I think on my need to go he wanted and then he became what he did saying he was famous enabling him off and what's next and then he married the one he loved letters again holder point on teens and how the changes something which really makes you a better person
self improvement comes in play and you become a better person than you are you start learning from your mistakes you start all you know you have this whole Zealand site if you to prove it to someone and that's you become such a strong driving force that you actually you know let out of let go of everything and actually started hearing things and actually our affiliate your
fear you know it's not a failure fear lest you have no respect for the status quo because a devious goatee Hokie hair so you go and if you do do I you go inside working on teams and you're not afraid of rejections so this whole process gets you to chant and that the outcome of teens is basically success that's go ahead self improvement the next speaking
so and when all over in in doing the whole process you know the whole process of Australia's of studies and then you have to four years of engineering and once you sever the college of thing would have to do night so twelve plus for how much is for the source the internet after sixteen years and then you step out of college anything one after two okay
what are you doing for the past sixteen has taken divine come back to this the fifth grade I can step back over to the fifth grade now he was self improving from the fifth grade in terms of education of because I got mixed so from first grade I went to college for tia and I graduated from college yourself intruder the battle with the speed of time
you know probably that things right now is you you can now construct %HESITATION you can now can do not to kiss and it took about sixteen or so none that process none that whole that whole time line that told beautician was your self improvement beaded and even after anything that occurs enough anymore so teams or anything is basically self improvement which comes in play you try
to become a better person you now know better things to every every meeting every every project that you do have the results that you get itself improvises yourself to keep stuff improvising a lot over the beat of time I somewhat infinity now infinity is this a mind set and I it's a process that system symbol which is actually going and it's actually going to what it
it's oneself known that infinity symbol is basically you just moving to what your own self you're standing in this one red circle which we all I said was outstanding in right now and I'm just moving on that sucker and I'm not doing much I'm not stepping out of that succulent thinking what I can do outside of the circle now we have this hour's even on a
review you see all success stories is he also tested he's not a somewhat failure stories who actually writes a book on failure stories you need about Steve Jobs eight hundred page biography you see all the success here at apple he laws that would hit that became the most cash it's gone no other company in the world then you don't what's occurred but faced with you Facebook
biggest social media we don't well on of the success things you know you know redox McPheeters because feeders are not appreciated in this water feeders are not appreciated anywhere meter family beater listen Srbija college beat anywhere if your failure failure outside of the shoot it anyway it might sound back to you it might have about impact you budget means if India apparently what we need to
learn is how we how can we can lead this failure into an art which will make people look like that you feel it when it was basically the process of what you're building and that's why you failed to the whole the whole idea lies behind how do you don't feed it into an art to achieving something which was making a successful so all of this is
a process if you don't love the process you've got your if you only focus on the destination you know the destination for you maybe are you know getting and if you're doing and unix and getting pleased would be all be would be all the destination after uses holy god my journey and off to school at my destination would be college you got into college and off
to college or destination would change their destinations keep changing you know in your give goals and desires keep going up and if you go into that is related to its financial and non financial problems so it's all it's all these veterans benefits it's always about finances so if you think about you know making a million dollars that's not a destination if you think about you know
%HESITATION going all inventing a private jet that's not your destination those are just small things in moments that you want to live what is the outcome of sitting in a foot out in writing it to college the happiness what is the outcome of updating the one you love you know that is again happiness everything comes down to your order to you being happy and if you're
not happy in what you're doing you should quit right away and I did that seems I was not happy sounding like I feared seven yes group straight and Matt I dug out unleavened and I did go to college and about a family eighteen today an outstanding year so you know it is all about being happy in what you wanna do it might not work out things
men are look out you know you'll probably find deals if he's right now you know if you even if you drop out if you if you're going to use things right now you always have enough blame it on you have a good have time span like this with you guys on the I said in the previous fed ex and we have some ideas of lifespan echo
on seventeen years you can always come back and you know doom for four years of engineering guard again I don't need the whole thing lies in being happy living the best life possible not even best you know living baddest successful get it you don't want to die alive and you know you don't want to be I think you want to be but apparently that's a that's
a hold sub starts acting on you don't want to have to you don't have to want to have a statue in Madame decides and you know you don't want to leave the house at United decides and not be happy and I crying on the debt that you know you should not have regrets I'm not talking about bigger goals which you know you should do whatever you
feel like doing right now you should go and if you don't want to do something just don't do it it's as simple as that nobody's gonna kill you for not doing it you know I see a lot of people crossing their passing you know probably some days they could get of doing engineering problem and now for example if far as such and then took us based
on them to be you know most art he could have played I mean you wouldn't have such and dental care he chases teams he everybody followed their passion you know and that's how they became who they were is how to accepting yourself and don't sit on join Jane your oneself by the opinions of others and that is what infinity is all about it's a mindset it's
something it's you yourself was going to take you places if nobody else is going to do that for you these account make our you know %HESITATION college is the institutions that just a driving force did just sailors of the boat and you just have it in you on the board you're actually sitting here bored and these people are just winds and oceans were on whom you're