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TEDx Talks
Published: 2016-03-30
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvBaRf9LHDs
today I want to talk with you about a subject that many people have been talking about for a very long time and thus subject is called success you see success means different things to different people I was assessed might mean to me it's different that what it may mean to you and what it may mean to you is different than what it means to kindergarten there
who's just trying to get a star on his homework assignment or perhaps a housewife who's been trying to get her five kids in bed by nine o'clock PM or maybe even a corporate executive who's been working for his or her corporation twenty plus years and only wants to become the C. E. O. of their organization as you can tell we have so many different definitions of
this word success but the greatest definition I can give you today is this success is all about self expression it's about being who you want to be doing what you want to do going where you want to go because when it comes to your life you are the boss and you have a choice in fact you are who you are today because of all the choices
that you've made in your whole entire life we know as we're going up we have a lot of people who try to tell us how to make these choices our parents our teachers our bosses are friends even our neighbors they try to tell us how to live our lives what we should do where we should go how we should walk how we should talk but my
question for you is this if you're trying to be what other people want you to be then who will be you know so the key to success is to stop conforming to other people's expectations and start performing to your own level of expectations is to believe in yourself if you know that what you want will eventually come to fruition as long as you believe it you
see you have to have faith faith is knowing that what you want will eventually come to fruition as long as you believe it if you feed your faith you'll find oftentimes at your fears will starve to death because if you believe in yourself everyone else in the world will believe in you fortunately for a long time I didn't quite believe myself actually I used to being
the kind of person that mothers would often warned her daughter's von and fathers would tell their sons if you keep doing what Daniel alleys doing you're gonna end up where Daniel alleys go now they have some credence to what they're saying because as you can imagine your reputation really is your best advertisements I really did have a good reputation because I was living so far below
my potential I was actually living in my mother's basement but I just twenty one I'd worked over forty different jobs I got fired for more jobs and more people had in high school I graduated second to last the last guy well he was in jail I was on drugs for eight years and I was confused I was broke busted and disgusted and I knew that I
wanted to change the only problem was that I didn't know how guess you show of hands if you ever been a situation where you wanted to change but you just didn't know what to do well we all been there maybe were there right now well I discovered that there are only three ways that I can make change in my life three ideas I wanted to share
with you today that can absolutely revolutionize your life from today I know these tips work because I've been able to do it myself but age of twenty four I became a self made millionaire I've been able to write three books and travel to dozens of countries I now reach millions of people with my work I believe that these three key principles can change your life no
matter how you define success what do you want to live to age one hundred or even have a dozen kids or just have a little house in the mountain top somewhere no one knows about these three key principles will help you to realize the success in your life the first one is to read more books you know all the books in the world can help us
to solve all the problems in the world the truth is that we don't have to read all the books in the world because we don't have all the problems in the world but we do have to read the books that help us to solve our problems so for instance if you want to learn about money you gonna be learning but reading books that talk about money
or if you want to learn how to %HESITATION manager relationships or to become a better communicator does a lot of books on that what I'm saying basically is that our libraries are paved with gold and library cards are free you see books are the tools that released the heavens of your mind and leaders are readers you see if you want to succeed you have to read
most people in the world read about one book every single year that book I would suppose would be Facebook and before people even get up and you know do their thing before they drink their coffee read their paper they re Facebook the truth is that if you study miscellaneous things you get miscellaneous results you become what you study what do you study and where is it
taking you you see a lot of people come up to me that they will tell you I don't really have time to read I have kids I have work I'm student every have so many textbooks and doing so many things I'm too busy but if you don't have ten minutes a day your basic say you don't have a life we all have time to read we'll
have time to pick up a good book and read for ourselves so that we can learn look if you re terminus Aday for thirty straight days that's one book a month one book a month in twelve months is twelve Bucks a year you can do in one year when most people do in five years talk about not having time we all have time to read remember
readers are leaders the only way you can succeed is if you read my second suggestion it's about getting around the best individuals you can you see where the sum total of five people in which we surround ourselves with the most we are in the same income we go the same places we do the same things we think the same thoughts and if you were to look
at your five closest friends you gotta ask yourself this one question who are my leaders and where are they taking me in other words are my leaders taking me to a place that I would most likely want to be you see if the answer is no then you need new leaders you need people were inspiring people that can help you lift you up to the goals
that transcend your own possibility and you're thinking you have to realize their goals and you can only do that by getting around the right people not many of us have what I like to call default friends and the fall of friends are basically people that we see around the neighborhood people at the grocery store the gem the mall at church at work everywhere we go these
are people that we naturally befriend as we start to gain their trust and acceptance and what tends to happen is that if you're highly ambitious person and you have really high goals a lot of these people can help you reach your goals so you have to look outside you've to certain people I give an example I had a friend whose name was John and he was
actually a plumber and on his father in him had a pretty successful business at least it seemed like it so I asked John you know I want to start a business what exactly do you think I should doom John pulled me to the Corning said Daniel I don't think you want to start a business ninety eight percent of businesses fail within the first three years then
he proceeded to tell me about all the reasons why I couldn't do it and why won't work you tell me how was so hard working over one hundred hours a week how hard it was to manage payroll and why the recession was holding him back from getting more clients as you told me this I became will discourage a little dejected and I went home and I
thought about it when I saw when I got to my journal usually reflect and I wrote down in my journal that ninety eight percent of statistics are made up including that one you see you have to realize that no one's opinion of you can become your reality in order to change your reality if the changement holiday and the people you surround yourself with you have to
get yourself around people who can help you people are smarter than you people have gone further than you people that know exactly what you need to do to get to that next level you see the truth is that the people that you're looking for are also looking for you we have to find them you see sometimes we surround ourselves with strangers and family members who tell
us what we can do the limit us and a lot of people have the right intentions but oftentimes they provide the wrong directions another words they want to help us but they just don't know how so get yourself around people who can lot of people ask me what Daniel how do you find these people it's easy if you follow step one which is to read more
books you'll find that in the back of the book is about the author section and what I used to do is ice to reach out to the authors thankfully we live in a new millennium which allows us to go under social media their websites so we can have a conversation with them we can change by actually understanding what it is that they teach and if we
ask enough questions we can make great progress in our life remember the people you're looking for are also looking for you so get yourself around those people my last and final suggestion set higher goals because goals make you stretch they help you to become more of who you are and then this enormous conformity so many people don't know how to set goals they get confused about
the process a lot of people use our new year's resolutions but the problem with new year's resolutions is that a person often tries to do too much too fast so was the dog wants to stop smoking on a December thirty first he says I'm done January first I'm clean never again you see he hasn't created a plan of action to achieve his goals and therefore it
is unreasonable bucket list is something else that people don't and use it when someone creates a bucket list they're giving themselves too much time this new urgency and most of time they don't write their goals down so what do you suggest well I'm glad you asked what I do suggest if you to write your goals down I believe that a dull pencil is better than a
sharp mind and to impress your subconscious mind you have to write your goals down so that you can hold the steadfastly to who you are I just meant that I teach all around the world is called the twenty idea method and basically what you do is you select one over arching goal that you would like to accomplish and Ellis twenty ideas that corresponds with that particular
goal so let's say for instance you wanted to become a better public speaker what are some things you can do well you could watch Ted talks like you are right now to practice your speech right you can look in the mirror to challenge yourself you can read the dictionary every day just so many things you can do but could I come up with twenty ideas and
answers yes I can come up with a hundred if I wanted to imagine if you did this in every area of your life financially for promotions for your family and you wrote your goals on every day you'd be able to accomplish so many things in your life you see we have everything we need in order to succeed but we have to take the things that we
have to get more to things that we want for the cars that we drive to the clothes that we wear to the food that we eat and the people that we me and this depository diversity we have everything we need in order to succeed but we have to believe you see when you believe in yourself you'll find that everyone else in the world will believe in
you and you also have to think big when you think big you'll do big and you went back well big is acid a three ideas I want to share with you today be the book that you agree I the individuals you me and G. the goals that you set for yourself books individuals and goals that's all you need to accomplish success because when you think big
