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Published: 2017-09-07
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k-M2Q_5qCQA
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for each new expedience order of events that we've got in touch with let me explain what I mean you see a certain type of person wedding certain types of clothes you put them in a box you see a man who loves cooking or love the color pink put them in a book we see somebody who %HESITATION enjoys a good who enjoys watching %HESITATION you know WW
II argument going we put them in a box so what are we doing here we extend your typing all of these different types of people I know my lighting a meter reader you know community from Rajasthan %HESITATION and %HESITATION stereotype that's associated with us is for the book but if they would says only matted CEO to be calm and though funny business face the book for
that now I happen to be my wedded to and though I was initially entrepreneur I'm an engineer and %HESITATION %HESITATION in fact I'm probably going to end of those lips of of what we got for being the oldest unleaded my body will Kannur book and when was when it was thank you so when you have these boxes for people and something that somebody doesn't fit into
it it makes you uncomfortable you don't know what to do with that with something new that's coming at you because you've gone box it and I think red let me tell you try to have an experiment removed the box you would see that suddenly when you stop using the box system in your mind you have this lost expands free flowing thoughts and ideas which are evident
finding like the universe and so I didn't eat anything new that's coming your way it surprise you how much your coin ability to digest that information and I remember the quicker that you not talk so the news Viewtiful lying that I the focus of an argument at a debate should not be too cool one person right one person gone it should not lead to force your
opinion on the other person the focus should be like find the collective consciousness and that's who we what if possible would you mind if those with limited that's a number one remove the box remember to no Minnesota in different people who not only created these boxes for themselves les Dennis leave the disk recoiling funding not only am I a boxing my own clubs and they each
other people's books the scientifico %HESITATION example that's that's my guess with gaps live this study is a veteran just a selfish but he probably would like but we do things that %HESITATION kept a separate they won't come to you if you call a name they would play with you not now my dad that's affecting my home he sleep next to me at night %HESITATION he comes
when I call his name and in fact he believes would be a little of both which makes all men he picks them up in his mouth and gets them whenever he feels like playing in the cabin he does that of and that that's an assumption that the stereotype of being broken when you think about along with two which says if it starts in the mind getting
there to say UMP there if you can so you see this image it's of course also most might have the kids and get on the train for those of you who are not familiar it on each other many famous Hyderabadi the rich are getting a lot of these women the work ethic %HESITATION but on the city so let me ask a question with a sweet soft
hands how many of you have been to one of the hole in the wall joint %HESITATION in which could be and you know better I feel like who female high okay why is that so when I first came to Hyderabad of I'm the aficionado I'm from because I know we all alive Johnny thought so when I keep him I would store that go women going boarding
it out and how about the boys and I was stored in the fifties you going for your school so I asked why is that a sign outside with their dogs in women not alone why do women on both so the experiment one day I decided to of walking through an enormous I get free and order myself a couple feet I hopped expected somebody to tell me
my them Saudi you are not alone here you can see if you this happened what happened was I was busted it like the plague so that they'd like that and given the gift of watching that's a different story but no we have to get out and then each dying that nine five of done this over the years I enjoy my Cup of steaming locomotive that ani
di caprese relying nothing having a little trouble for the contract nobody ever goes you get out and what I've done here it is Iraqi challenged the goddess of discord I've broken the speed of about broken the box because when people are confused gone with Jordan and then if we do that that is the first woman sitting here having chai and when the Seymour quit because almost
for them and the new chief of thinking that open women are not allowed in the you know what it will keep the out we were all about how you make that assumption another thing that that you know for example you put him %HESITATION people would see if your body and leave there's only one way to stop now %HESITATION because the threat confidence now it may work
for you it may not I decided that that's not something that worked for me so I need to do in the gonna for both my dad and that's enough you know and I'm happier yeah I don't know that look for me whatever works for you so I think you know what he it's very easy when you think about it along with the one person who knows
you the best one was ordering pizza but stock is secret and you know all of the medicine because you have had all of the baby because you had that one was review your phone and very often this button come up with them but the what science in mind so you know you might view of all of the things you've done on offense they must let me
break %HESITATION coming to the knocking on the say the little you know Morton babies they did over the last thing you philosophy fit in on the last thing that you're hearing you got but leaned over nobody left that I don't like to get think they need to discuss them so I think it could be your worst enemy Fujimori coastal weather tried being your own best friend
the best friend who encourages you the best friend when following you will lift you up when you're down the best I would support you so if I have to come here might my weight should go meet %HESITATION you know what today you would be you'd be thinking so where's the connection would be so brave you enunciate everything so clearly anybody in the audience will get what
or your job to do jokes are going to make people on forfeitures offering they come knife that's coming up the guy didn't experiment try being your own best friend they've not the means but for whom you remove those nasty secrets of the wrong things would be the best friend that you can do about but this is my fourth point once bitten one show I why is
this important now a lot of fun pheromone specially in the Indian context we feel that job field is an impediment that nobody wants to %HESITATION how a battle like the end of the war nobody wants to %HESITATION get one market than an exam because mama's gonna make Hella cold %HESITATION if you stock up on it fears whether you know suddenly anybody would be like I do
with you so you know what I hope this had to happen so if I don't know what to do with the the failure to Europe on stage it's actually disadvantages for us because each time that you're bitten if you feel that that's enough to deter you from ever doing it again your your wheezing often so much I do myself but I started my company my shift
six years ago would stop note I need money %HESITATION and we started working with amended and what's really no I didn't I didn't force things we heard what you're in the wrong country in the wrong space in the wrong time it would be all of these different things that happened now we could have stayed in each of these critiques and feedback I just hope NPOs and
you don't become a statistic life I was out of stock up shut down for a few things that's what we would have gotten but because the lawn from each beating each failure each time that we stop raving fan it's like a big we have been able to create a war duty of the software with which anybody can create their own via without any need for courting
and that's something that you defining access will be arguing the moment both and we wouldn't have been able to do the fix in the Gulf we've been able to do it because the formation of all the things that have happened in now which is why it's so important but if you're big one committee be smart of the next time but make sure that you are limited
to one written one strike they which brings me to the next point and I don't know if any of you can be that %HESITATION if they got to get up maybe and come here and needed I'm talking to and having the courage to be shameless why no one could have been button in our minds which if constantly active if we're in a public situation today we're
thinking automaton thing make everybody must be studying at me I must look ridiculous there's a simple on my face today anybody's disdaining at that the lives of those with that in mind if I if I go out of the cabin and I'm done that everybody must be looking at that you constantly self conscious you're constantly %HESITATION thinking of being embarrassed or being alone you know feeling
guilty about something lunchboxes it just refuses to burn off the problem with that is some buttons and I'm wanting to remember the short time they condone the how many of you would have had succeeded in asking for your coin money back from a friend because the lake where every weekday why if you owe money you already figured it conventus wanted redundant today why don't we have
to be the one asking for a good read thinking you know this is a fan made them think I'm not being a fan them out so many thoughts that come eight no this is the people I would see him I would see it ask any which because the end of the day if you ask and in the north that comes in you're back to the same
spot that you any with what they knew of you've not lost anything but nothing that you lost but if there's a yet you could actually end up getting something which you one bit and it's very important that you talk about negotiations in business quite the girl then though %HESITATION under the concept that I'm leaving too much of the people and that happens when you just don't
ask there's no harm in asking about removing a little bit of your ego Wednesday afternoon date and I would ask anyway and by I would say that if it so your focus this nothing wrong with asking her book you want to see even now I'm telling you you should be looking at and I have no qualms with making complete off myself itself my purpose and if
it still doesn't work I'm telling you much I damn thing right now like right here maybe we need to look at me it's not cool if you don't do that yeah I did that you need to make sure that if those people Gordon would give up both their but maybe my next point beats all put no some of the people of commercial where the images are
not showing but %HESITATION who live for both net income with the on the screen that and %HESITATION United on income and Jack mom I think I'm defining purpose but so they should be says beep also means having great skin over if our all having cold and influence over people and events or having an effect on people's hearts and be now with the short pants new Lanka
how do you feel pain that each of the screen men on him on the screen right now how do you effects on at least one person the influence of their hearts a feeling that this one person everybody agrees that so going forward do you think she's also within the commission shop on Rick here the door though it is one thing no I think that the mission
although he will also do because you'll you know what the completely have influence over thing the person's life you don't you're not someone they you have so much follow over York born like one life on this earth we have the power to do it to be who we are and to become who we really want to be this is one of the crew has gone up
is when you end up meeting the person you could have become so what's stopping us from getting that we are false when there's no point in waiting for someone else to come and see that W. who is your best interests at heart you can say it all boyfriend girlfriend mother husband father dog cat Okie but they would still not have as much of your best into
that hot as you yourself would for this big if you could not you manhole and so it's up to us to be able to achieve ought to potential looking inside my feeling falsehood because we are false waiting for somebody who's so far we do reluctantly own talk about this in a minute so I sort of let me talk about the so many so funny to do
so far removed the box it's often the mind you can indeed right that's what I would do and that's very very important date of your you know when enemy be a best friend it's important one big one strike how the garbage to be humility the ball put six so far made nope last but not least remember the seven two was which is stoking the fire stoking
the fire in your belly Manado by that fire nope I'm not even talking with the kind of fire that makes you run to the bottom I'm talking to would run your life into your life force be good at this before the fire which is Bonnie this modify of those annoying but the god that we have to hop on pop by them they just do not go
off this fire the newborn which it starts from the moment that he does so the more that we need it it's always going even in your darkest times it's Tuesday might be available in book but assume that it's a core driving force it what if one gives advice to your fashion you put together your ambitions it quite a lighting they added your P. devoted in your
darkest moment even when the fire is a little you are putting your controller to store that five to be a group you will your follow up and get it to a milliliter winning point so going back to the image you saw this before that off Nina hospital bed that was taken couple of our laughter I was hospitalized with multiple fractures in my spine this for both