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Published: 2014-06-15
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xnLoToJVQH4
alright my friends who so I want to start off with a few questions and I know a lot of other presenters have already asked you questions and they've been kind of hard questions the questions I'm going to ask you are very very simple and I promise you'll be able to answer these are you ready for your first one okay your first question is you don't have
to answer out loud are you having a good day okay got an answer alright my second question for you is why if you're having a good day why are you having a good day or if you're having a bad day why are you having a bad day so I have one more question for you this should be the easiest one of awe my last question is
tomorrow would you rather have a good day or would you rather have a bad day Debbie answer for that one what about the day after tomorrow about Sunday the seat yeah that's right tomorrow Saturday Sunday how about Monday would you like to have a good day or a bad day on Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday this time next week good there about that so that last
question like I said is probably the easiest one for us to answer because we know the answer to that time I when I have a good day everyday did anyone in the room answer yes I want to have a bad day on Monday of course none will when I have a good day every day so this is really speaking to the type of happiness that we
all wish for in our heart of hearts we have a good day when we are happy and we want to be happy everyday there's never a day when we don't want to be happy but whether or not we have good days and bad days really depends upon how we answered the second question do you remember the second question what was the second question why why am
I having a good day why am I having a bad day so one thing that my teacher sends his name is get she Kelsang Gyatso and he says so much of the time our mind dislike a balloon in the wind blown here and there by external circumstances do you know that feeling he says when things are going well when they're going our way we feel happy
but then if something goes wrong for example he says if we're forced to work with a colleague that we dislike but I'm sure none of you have colleagues who dislike cry he says if we're forced to work with some we dislike or something doesn't go our way than are happy feeling disappears so as long as her answer to the question why am I having a good
day why am I having a bad day because you know this is a question people ask us like maybe when you get home today some will go well so how was that Ted thing did you have a good day I will say yeah yeah I did there is this lady and she talked to us about how we need to be about compassionate towards former inmates and
there is this performer who did this awesome be boxing thing with his mouth and you know this person and not person as long as our reasons for why we had a good day are a list of external conditions then we're not going to have the stable happiness that we all want does it make sense to hear because of us what our happiness depends upon because we
cannot control people and circumstances every single day then our happiness will be in the hands of others woman it'll be at the whim of our circumstances so if you really wish to have a good day everyday we've got two things we need to do so the first thing that we need to do is we need to stop I'm out sourcing our happiness and out sourcing our
unhappiness on the people and circumstances in other words we need to stop attributing our happiness to what's going on externally and we need to stop blaming others specially blaming others for our unhappiness so for as long as we do that as long as we're making it the job of people and circumstances to make us happy or as long as we're making it their fault one more
unhappy our happiness will be very unstable an elusive our second job is to actively cultivate a source of peace and a source of happiness coming from inside our own mind so here's something I want you to commit to memory are you ready this is another line on from one of my teachers books where his sons happiness and unhappiness our states of mind and therefore they're real
causes cannot be found outside the mind so if we had a peaceful state of mind we will be happy regardless of people and circumstances if our mind is on peaceful agitated then even if we are very good circumstances will find it impossible to be a hot day so in other words it's not what is happening that is making us happy or unhappy it is how we
are responding to those things that determines whether we are happy or unhappy it is what our state of mind is supplying that determines our happiness our unhappiness so how are we going to do this so we can all understand this Ike intellectually it's not rocket science is it is not hard to understand and maybe to a certain extent on as I still you these sayings like
I yeah I knew that already I knew that already how do we actually do it how do we actually cultivate this stable peace of mind that we can rely upon regardless of the external circumstances so this is really where meditation comes and play and I would say I would need a whole other tech talk hint hint I in order to really do the subject of meditation
justice but for our purposes today we can say about meditation is a mental action it's the mental action of concentrated on a peaceful positive state of mind if we do that concentrated on a peaceful positive state of mind and we can say were meditating whether that's like Vince Ryan see actually I don't know if I'm meditating or not because I could be thinking about my grocery
list it's only meditation if I'm actually focusing on a positive peaceful state of mind the trick is how I can do it like this it's called formal meditation but we can also learn to do this all the time in our daily life sissy here's a perfect opportunity we concentrate on the mind of patients we're not to stir not unhappy so why don't we try it now
are you up to up for it just a short meditation according to the clock I've got three minutes slower so it's going to be a very brief one but less actually try it let's try to tap into our own potential for a peaceful positive state of mind so now I'll ask you just to sit comfortably and place your feet flat on the floor and your hands
within your la and then you can lie close your eyes and become aware of the sensation of your bra at the tip of your nose and does you breathe out you can a mansion you are grieving out in agitation in a mental busy ness and the frustration and or on the hot penis in Uruguay creating it all around like dark smoke and does to breathe then
you can imagine and Leah but you are breathing and I could hear Brian fly which is a very nature of inner peace and you can imagine that this clear bright line fills your entire body and mind and for a few seconds simply enjoy the centerpiece coming from within and now his wife and then just be determined to bring the centerpiece with Theo and the rest of
