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Published: 2017-02-10
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=094bnth7EzY
I'd like to share a story about something that changed my life with you today and maybe it'll changes to and while we're at it when we have some fun how many of you are very ambitious young adults me too I was a very ambitious young man as a matter of fact my only goal when they enter the workforce was to earn as much money as possible
I couldn't earn enough I wasn't ashamed of that I came from a poor family I remember when I was a little boy my dad left toe for Pacquiao's cigarettes he never came back my sister and I were raised on government assistance I vowed that when I was old enough I would earn enough money where I'd never be laughed at for the clothes I wore the house
I lived in again early on in my career I had a very nice job in Los Angeles I work for a large company and on this particular day the company was having its annual managers meeting at a very nice hotel the president company would be there self handing out superior performance achievement award no I wasn't getting one and frankly looking back I did deserve one either
but that didn't stop an ambitious young man from wanting attention and recognition anyway so I had this plan I would sit in the front row so close to the president I can almost touch and when he opened up the meeting to queue in a I had this brilliant question house canastas very intelligent question it would just rain attention and recognition all over me I couldn't wait
I couldn't a few minutes before the meeting began my phone began I get calls all the time I thought I would wait till after the meeting but it kept going off clearly it was important issue so I thought I'll step all the meeting take the call and I'll use restroom at the same time I can be back before queuing they start no I ended my call
about ten minutes later in the beautiful gorgeous but just Dick restroom she gave a Hilton hotel gorgeous the first thought that came to my mind was the what a cheap hotel the sandpaper Hilton they don't even have urinals in the men's restroom and then the next thought that came to me right after that thought was you're in the women's restroom quickly I panicked I turn I
rushed for the door I flung it open but as luck would have it there is a very nicely just business woman standing in the doorway she's a very confused look on her face she looked at me then she looked at the sign on the door that she looked at me again quite differently I hatched a new plan I bit down on my lapel and I said
it's all clear miss it's all clear and you may enter now she said well thank you and I said no thank you for coming to the San Gabriel Hilton and I kept talking to my lapel all the way back to the media he noted that in respect to the character well how do we get into these jams what happens to us is that multi tasking is
a trying to do more than one thing at the same time the answer is no the issue is much deeper than this it's an issue that makes us want to do everything at the same time it's not answering three simple life questions properly whom I what do I want how do I get it who am I what do I want how do I get a three
simple questions but the answers are not so simple you see you can't get what you want you don't know what it is and you can't really know what you want if you don't know who you are it's hard to know who you are when you could be three different people at any point time you couldn't habits free unique brains let me explain using these very handsome
Dodge balls were born with the primal brain spring is very focused highly responsive we're thrust into this branch situationally this brain will allow you to do amazing things in the emergency this brain will save your life the problem is that it's not really the right brain you want to be and answer the life question what do I want it would be like having a picnic in
Warsaw it's not appropriate but between the ages of three and six years old we complete the formation a promotional bright our limbic system the vault for over feel spring is also your default brain we spent most of our time and our motion of bread and some as you all know never lied I mean you go to work you talk with other adults they speak back to
you three syllable words are nicely dressed but they're basically their butts a six year old this might explain a lot about what happens to us in the workplace and although this is your default brain it's really not the correct brand to be an answer the life question it would be like going grocery shopping if you're hungry you tend to leave the store with a lot of
junk food now between the ages of twenty and twenty five years old we complete the formation of a higher brain appreciable cortex of this branch out now strategizing it analyzes itself problems it predicts it visualizes at miles got all the tools you need to answer the live question what do I want properly but the problem is this how do we get into this brain it's not
you default brain and it's not situational we're not thrust into her brain you have to want to go there but I have good news for you today I brought you a brain that and application of allow you to access your higher brain second then we can answer the life question properly what do I want then I'll show you how to get what you want let's do
it together please everyone close your eyes for a moment close your eyes and take a deep breath excel slowly now relax your shoulders your arms lecture hand election act your jaw lecture hall face deep breath excel slowly now in your hand visualize a banana hold a banana in your hand a golden yellow ripe banana hold feel the skin deep breath excel Salome okay now let's peel
a banana together halfway down foresight side one peel side two site three outside for a look it up in a deep breath excel now take a bite takes the banana taste the delicious luscious banana the best but have you ever had keep your eyes closed and breathe normally edge of this question for me and one or two words silently what do you really want what do
you want okay can open your eyes now you were just in your prefrontal cortex and with the edge of that question I can now show you how to get what you want when I was a young man I knew exactly what I want money and I made a lot of money at one point I work for a very wealthy broker in Beverly hills his name was
Julia and I never actually met him watching pictures of them but I didn't need to he would call me for jobs I go do them then he would send me a picture on this particular day he asked me to go to the port of Long Beach because one of his shipments have been seized in custom I drove out there I met with the customs agent for
about an hour and I got released I call Julia he was so happy he said Mike I was going to send you a big fat check but I got to meet the young man that did this I want you to come down to my office in Beverly hills I have a special reward for I'm thinking to change what is it cash money it is of the
cars and a boat maybe property my mind was racing I reached down to Beverly hills Beverly Wilshire went up to the night for his office building as I was running down the hallway to his office but in front there was standing a very large individual in a three piece suit when I approached him I saw under his lapel there was a gun I was scared he
said are you Mike I went he said going I walked into the most beautiful office I've ever seen in my life it had a panoramic view of Los Angeles it had a couch in the office it had a bar a bar in the office it picture of chewing on the wall hoping the governor I thought I have a right to food I heard my name might
come in the conference room it was Julian I walked in the conference room and sat down he excused another very large individual he began telling me about his immense wealth his two homes in Malibu his car collection his vacations his business ventures as investments in any abruptly stopped and he said you know my god and call you down here tell you about me I called you
down here to give you a special reward I was going to write you a big huge check today but after getting to know you in these last few minutes you just don't seem like the kind of guy I'm pretty I am like in a guy that's me he said no instead I decided to give you some advice and then your freedom listen carefully sometimes the money
you make is it worth the price you have to pay and your fire and the large individual came in and dump me in the hallway and slammed the door I sat there stunned this isn't the way it works you do amazing things you make lots of money you do wonderful thank you make lots of money I don't remember walking to my car a couple months later
I found out that Julian was involved in organized crime and that day he did me a favor he cut me loose before I did damage to myself maybe they lost my life I appreciated this and I had a different answer to that question that day because I asked it from a different perspective higher higher prospective and I'm asking you to do the same thing and with
the answer to that question with the correct answer to that question I want to show you now how to get what you want so we do together tonight tomorrow the next day on a piece of paper I'm ask you to write down all of your task everything that you're doing personal and professional taking out the garbage mowing the grass doing the dishes so your wife has
been about that I don't know what %HESITATION vacations %HESITATION remodeling the business associations you involved and everything write them down I don't enter them into a computer right then use your muscle memory expand your brain then use your free Branagh take a few seconds and access your higher brain and ask that question and get your simple answer one or two words open your eyes and look
at all those tasks circle the tasks that support what you want the gonna pop right out at you believe me you can have some tasks left behind I want to help you dispose of those right now first delete all the tasks that are important some you don't even know why you're doing them put a pic right next to them I remember that a task deleted is
a task completed number to give back give look at all those tasks that you're doing the work that you're doing that others you all know what I mean put it next to those as well and keep this in mind isn't always better to give than receive number three delegate the rest transfer that worked others to continue work for you now in order to do delegation you
may have to overcome some blocks blocks like fear failure inability to to trust others our obsession with perfection but do overcome those blocks because we need to dispose of all those tasks so that you can get what you want now as you might imagine if you do everything about should to do today you may have some difficult conversation may affect you will I'm asking you to
have those have those conversations for yourself and for your future but I'd like to give you some advice some advice to thousands and thousands of years old that will help you you see my native American ancestors teach that all power comes from within and if we lose our power along the way if we go weak it's because we gave it away but the good news is
this your power always belongs to you and you can grab it back snatch it back and all you have to do is remember who you really are and remember what you really want it'll come raining back on you believe remember who you are before you walk in to work every morning while you're still sitting in your car remember before an important meeting or before a difficult
conversation remember if you're angry or if you're sad remember if you're afraid remember before you go to sleep at night and have sweet sweet tree and if you remember what I'm asking you'll find the deep rich happiness that you so richly deserve and for me the answer to the question what do I want has changed it's no longer money today it's freedom but not the freedom
