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TEDx Talks
Published: 2017-09-12
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2qz35ezu3M
no like I have for was full of uncertainty college life has learned enough right here follicle nowadays why does vision of Michelangelo's latest work Christian like this movie moving waterfall or any other one stop back in nineteen eighty two in nineteen ninety five club in a place called Roxbury a place where working class communities did everything they could to provide for their families they close their
children to keep their eyes on the prize he financed eight year old girl mean attention to the graffiti on the walls or the broken glass on the ground reading each one you never this squirmy was still my hated and all eight year old girl come together with that one girl would have a lot of and we would come together and get ready to hit who whom
I am a lot but I think all right everyone knows them guys a good days was when the plot well who and we were able to let the waters it's all over our bodies Xena Fuentes on the wireless long they got it also reminds us that it was time Florida likes me yeah and then I was told I was going to a new school I don't
like I'm actually forty gave them in the morning so we've got scary and had to Shannon Massachusetts the cement startled soul slowly changed into green grass and I knew I was somewhere different because when I entered the classroom all I could see was a seat on the military bases and masculine talk would be assumptions have played a major part of my life in many states my
personal journey six satellites you to walk with me down memory lane as I share a few stories that have shaped my training shifted my perspective the metropolitan council predication opportunity also known as the national program was designed to help inner city students I have a product I was a medical student and good school years are correct when she came to my language enhancing my writing and
developing my communication skills now my life is very precious things up when we could see the difference they would say things like do you sound like a lot of girls so it's a pain my snap and friends on the other hand would say all my goodness did you see the new did you hear about the murder were you there last week every now and then a
few people would say you should feel really grateful for being a part of this program and a lot of wiggle I can always tell girls were doubting my potential but it wasn't always that with time I was able to join a number of civic groups and really began supply Nicholas who do I Laura my and as a person I inserted the university of Massachusetts and and
I seventeen years old I was on a mission Kristin who out of us but there were a few professors who really had a profound on my life I tell you what I think our songs next Alex the songs I'll never forget it because it looked like super woman with a cane and she talks a lot about women are crimes like Sojourner truth then Tony Morrison she
reminds us to use our voices as college females and we became very reasonable German troops very popular speech hangs on a woman she also tells us that we did not work hard to try even better that next time I wouldn't rule it sweep floors about identity now this instructor was interesting because when I saw her she had long brown hair according the middle seat definitely look
like she right out of the sixties and again she a familiar face she simply said just call me okay on the and she talks about stories of colors and she talked about race she also experienced her own journey because she married man of a different race and have biracial children this instructor really caught my attention but how could I ever forget professor Nicholas McBride the journalism
department it allowed me to create an independent study warehousing able to America are and closer together and I am slower lousy this I'm sure Sarah Vaughan and double fitzgerald I could be found singing blue skies not look at me type about see even though I knew in the nineteen thirties many Americans are strong but I would say you know I really felt like an archaeologist I
wanted to be a little bit of the new math very you always floor in their I smuggled for my post I read the stories about the separate fountains I asked myself what would life be like if I have to say do you have to ask if Martin Luther king were here today what would he say to you well I joined with newspapers I spoke on the
radio and I even began to create different types of social groups I started to try to answer that question and I began to rise what she will mining speeds with ink blots abreast with intricate we major student moves back soon from your next time or in front of you telling a lie baiting website on the drive out of the corner of your lips no longer is
used but it would be I love the birdies brands in my college experience was truly I hope it is I resolved that I would want her what professor just shops okay Olin and Mister Nicholas McBride's if for me that was the kids of self discovery boom boom boom dun dun dun I'm many years later I got the college years behind me I have reached my American
dream I haven't supercars net Hollis it even Packwood cookouts I was but I think three years I started having excruciating pains and these pains are so bad that I could be found on the floor in the current position we're still years I went to doctors China's why you answers to my problems and finally a doctor said a lot of you have endometriosis I think what has
no yeah but we do know there's been a condition where the uterine lining which would normally be dispelled during low because it brought it up here is within your violence symptoms include extreme pain and also a challenge with giving birth when I'm nervous diagnoses ironic ballast stones to everybody assumes that to be a full I have three children by the age of thirty five you see
for five years I began to ask myself why did I have to squint his condition book five years I stopped writing I stopped big and I stopped initiating anything I even hated going to parties where I could find another woman I would suggest one party this woman came up to me with her hand on and she sat up news mmhm he seems like a good show
I felt dejected and views but although she came home one particular on one particular night around suing him in the morning I laid in my bed with my head looking at the ceiling saying why do all these things happens to be I think why this problem have to interrupt my play and then I heard in our knowledge it's not a lot of million bids while the
state I'm in all the pain you have to look it might be like if you only had one hundred twenty days to live I pondered some more and the song came to mind you're gonna miss me la not why didn't I update will slow Latin would you do it once when the days we will just wait times where he taking something within me immediately shifted I
woke up the next morning I hotel journals that I had tons of my closet for fourteen and I got my heart integral to Starbucks and here begins right behind Parcells public tomorrow can't wait I decided I would birthday you need and I resolved that I would look at me hadn't just this past month I had gotten to you share my story with a group of women
at the conference where branch of the cloth I saw Manila bases has gone out of the room pieces pecan faces and I share my story Abby Mann of my workshop I looked out and saw a thirty year old woman coming up to me she had tears in her office and she slaps me you changed my life it's a day if you did not decide to do
this I would never have been able to hear your story in that moment I hope to have fifteen minutes and I knew within our ships have happened what would you do if you only had one hundred twenty days yeah I have a managed to create a new project put into something new but you just kept putting it off perhaps you told yourself it's too late now
so much time has gone by I would like to leave you with these three problems no one what would happen if you were able to wipe the slate clean you don't start completely over and forgive yourself for the many years that you may have developed resentment number two well revisiting some of the goals that you have Grierson we cannot truly appreciate a butterfly unless you understand
the caterpillar that it's less surely change takes process and last week all the reminded okay eight year old with Clinton's that challenges us to live with an excited look a whole becoming our best you see one hundred twenty days is the idea that we can all live our lives with a sense of urgency notable motivational speaker last rounds that is not the richest place on her
and it's been a great where people have buried their talents and their kids but that does not have to be you so I encourage you to have one rifle Einstein moments of stillness because you might be amazed and just what you discover because you're gonna miss me la not a lot of blood you had Facebook so what would you do it once where the days
