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Published: 2015-06-16
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-FyVetL1MEw
I want to talk Pat society I have anxiety I've always had anxiety hours upon Larrea if I have nothing to worry about I worry about that so you can imagine when the good people of headaches reached out and invited me to be a guest speaking here today truth be told I thought it was a joke and then I freaked out my thought process when a little
light this while this is amazing is this a joke I cannot be serious I can't see this there is no way I hate public speaking doesn't everybody hate public speaking actually maybe I can do this and while this is amazing and this is amazing being out here doing this talk it is great begin say my thought process here it went from really excited to fearful but
too excited again and I think a lot of us go through this whole process Wimmer presented with opportunities the outside our comfort sign being here on the stage on the other side of the road is definitely outside my comfort sign but I'm not just here because I have anxiety I'm here because the way that I view my anxiety has changed I now view my fears my
worries and my anxiety as a good thing and I use it to my advantage when I saw IT is at its peak for me it can mean a number of things %HESITATION mostly it coming I difficulty in sleeping it can mean difficulty in eating and it can mean sitting up in bed at two three four I am in the morning obsessing about the tiniest of details
and role playing different situations or scenarios in my head about how the future may or may not play out now the ironic thing with me is that in my professional life I own and run a PR agency back home in Australia and when I put my work had on my professional hat on my anxiety and my fear it completely vanishes I feel very strong and confident
in the work that I do and so I have to struggle I feel like I have this Joe personality thing going on because the way that I am in fictional life it's very different to how I am in my personal life and to be honest I feel like I've probably hidden behind my three for such a long time because if I'm working and I am a
workaholic if I'm working it can main I can avoid going out to different social events or I can avoid going out in general and so I started my own PR agency when I was twenty seven and many people told me that I couldn't it couldn't be done and that I didn't have enough experience and for me I think there's a lot of power in our and
I leave my life let these I get told no a lot I remember being at school and my teachers tell me that I probably wouldn't amount to much and by wait said we struggle going on to university let's just say I was nice Cola I wish she is at school yeah into how would the teaches that way to add tell me these negative comments it drive
me to work kada to not only prove them wrong but to get to actually want to today I did go on to university I graduated with honors and data and then I went out and %HESITATION schooled my absolute dream job which was working for the biggest Recco company in the well it it was an incredible job and I was the national publicity many to that and
I was working with all sorts of bands and artists anyone from the fee fi this one of my favorite bands I had to people like Selena Dion's who was very divest and it was an incredible job I was there for eight years and then I started my own PR company and I've had my own PR company for the last five years semi going from strength to
strength just recently I realize that my whole life I've been fighting not to and data and I realized that I haven't actually been fighting my fears and maybe this has something to do with my anxiety and sorry I wanna look fear for my men now research has shine the forty percent of the things that we worry about nafta actually happen thirty percent are in the past
and I can't be helped twelve percent involves the affairs of others so it's not even our business to worry about them ten percent relate to sickness either real or imagined sigh that means that only eight percent of the things that we worry about I'm the of a likely to happen there's two ways of looking at FIA one is to do absolutely nothing and just remain in
that bubble of comfort and this is how I approach my Thea I didn't approach my Thea I rarely stepped outside that comfort sign and looked at the issues that I was having in my personal life all I did was work owns the workaholic I was comfortable working working working in house comfortable when I was in the office but now the way that I approach FIA is
different take on FIA like a warrior and for me this has given me unlimited opportunities an OCI unlimited happiness as well six speaking of happiness I want to speak about my husband for a moment now this is my husband his name is Phil and he is a professional musician and he's a great guitarist and he placed of thousands of people ally in these professional life that
outside his work life he's like a professional hobbyists as well he have so much stuff going on in his life from said feeling sick cooking to guide me into fishing this guy has it all going on and my husband is the happiest person that I have ever met then it could just be because he married me %HESITATION I show that plays a really big role in
his happiness but that time JSP head and so when I looked at my husband's life I realized that hang on a minute he's conquering fear on a pretty pretty big level almost every day needs professional life he goes up any place get tied to thousands and thousands of people but in his personal life is also attacking fear to I mean the things that he does would
freak me out of ego surfing and he's a karate expert and so I took inspiration from my husband and I thought okay I'm gonna get myself a hobby and I want my hubby to address some of the fears that I'm having in my own life as well and so I refer to this as my feet projects and I created a hobby and sat and it is
just one of my fears so what was my FIA what was I scared off well one of the things and there's lots of things that I'm scared of it just one of the things that I was scared I was being in front of the camera and sat and sat me again this is funny because in my professional life that's what I do for a living I
put other people in front of the camera I put the spotlight on everybody else that I'm working with but when it came to me well that was a whole other thing so I didn't I created a YouTube channel and I credit you cheap channel because it would address my fear because I physically have to be in front of the camera I'm my own host on my
YouTube channel and secondly it would give me this creative outlet to get outside of my work had because I was very much within my I'd head and very much focus on work work lack and so it would give me a creative outlet to talk about something else that was passionate about so what was I passion about outside pia well one of the things that I'm passionate
about and I must admit I'm a little bit nervous to talk about this at a text hope it's all about addressing the fetus and so one of the things that I'm passionate about is sign handbags yes he did not say that coming addicts headaches took DGA now I but it is materialistic absolutely and that superficial I agree with you it is I'm guilty of it some
people go skiing and ask for the fun I don't have time for that so I buy designer handbags and and to me they're like little pieces of odd and I love them and so on my you tube channel I talk about designer handbags talk about other things as well I took about fashion and travel and I do these really find culinary videos when my view is
ride in and ask me questions like what is it like to be a go bus how can you afford a three thousand dollar have back and how do you justify that to husbands so she can say are really tackling the big issues on my YouTube channel I thought that the greatest thing in having this the project is that it's actually compared to one of my fees
in addressing them and and this is really the idea that I want to get across today is thinking about the things that you worry about all that make you anxious and creating a project to tackle those fears head on now my you tube channel has had hundreds of thousands of years and that's awesome but in stepping outside my comfort sign and attacking one of my fee
is head on likable aria has actually presented a lot of amazing opportunities in fact the reason I'm here today is because one of the ten X. organizes was if you are on my you tube channel and say being here was something that could never have imagined prior to tackling my FIA so now the greatest thing isn't that I have thousands of subscribers on YouTube channel the
greatest thing is that in conquering one of my fears my anxiety levels have actually decreased and my happiness has increased across the board not only in my professional life but also in my personal life as well I now like to refer to myself as a fear FISA this is really the idea that I want to show it today it's all about creating a few projects the
things that why are you making anxious in your life taking them head on and becoming a fee if item when I stopped worrying about everything in my life my life got so much easier I my life got more productive you say in this fight I I'm jumping up and down on the beach looking very happy and looking very free and this is how I feel when
I'm conquering my fears I don't always look like this I sadly did not look like this before these headaches toe today and I guess you could say that this tenet told has been like a few project for me because it certainly outside my comfort sign how would I feel anxious or when I feel worried I go ahead and I create another fee a project I will
probably have another two hundred feet projects to guy my call to action is this take on FIA don't always take no for an answer create fear projects and become a fear feita and use FIA to motivate you and energize you to actually get on and do the things that you want to do in your life be the one area not though aria thank you
