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Published: 2017-09-08
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cBhhXnr6rw4
if I were to go to five people in this room and ask them what they wanted to be when they grow up they would probably also me the same and don't get me wrong that's not a bad thing in fact I don't blame them one of the largest circumstances of the human condition it's a desire state in which everything isn't equilibrium a state in which everything
is in its place scale is only straight when happy and sad coexist set on spec yourself too thin kari Dobson than you it's only natural that we seek solace in our lives in spite of our plates we shun every ounce of misfortune from our stories in hopes of forging a life of solely happiness and so when I ask you what you want to be when you
grow up you will probably say happy but I was found it kinda silly to construct myself and my life using my best moments as my crutches for awhile I didn't realize you know is need to be happy to feel whole and you most definitely do not need to feel inclined to pry happiness from skin that straight out believe me forcing yourself to laugh is just as
hard as forcing yourself to get up in the morning for school or for a nine to five or for anything and some people like to tell me that no one will love you when you're sad that's fork lifting fabricated positively from the pit of your stomach when it feels like your world is crumbling around you is somehow so much better than being honest with yourself and
so they tell you to force it plus your happiness on your face until it becomes a middle name see consists in having this is too good to be true it's not sustainable I felt myself straying from happiness far too often over time begin to hate myself for feeling emotions I did learn in elementary school so I had them away conceal them to see my pillowcases instead
of my friends a smile was our default but little did we know that the more we hit our side is the more aid us up from the inside out a plea one thing I want their high school like this let's say another thing it's still the biggest mistake I made to date shying away from confronting my feelings in lieu of finding comfort in them a kept
me from growing and I'm not saying that you can't be happy but when you lose the authenticity and find yourself laughing for the sake of putting your feelings on hold happy can awaits happiness isn't always honest take it from me it's one of the easiest emotions you can forge physically so let yourself ferial just this once for your sake and not saying sadness gives you a
free pass to complain I'm single use it as a tool to be better think better share better find relief in the bad days and some people ask me if I've had bad days and they'd be nice to say no granted my ideas can be bad they can most definitely be ugly and I probably can name all the planets in our universe but I can tell you
that because of failure I've seen of Suns and moons to be able to tell people I made it they Sierra poetry which means they did a drawbacks do more good than harm it's more ammunition poetry has been my very own balancing act in my sinuses only been preached as a tool to teach I feel with every fiber the skin is John Wayne and sometimes I don't
let myself feel hurt when I need to Lacey I poetry I was never one to believe in myself without a struggle I thought tsunamis often my bare fists before I could tell myself this like wasn't for me and for the longest time how much people make homes at issue to parts heavier than their own web pages turn your limbs into conversation please don't tell me resilience
is a direct result of helping we derive strength from being too human take boxing lessons from heartbreak to learn to use our fists for the punch line of the joke instead of a hospital bed for enemies we never learn from perfection the forcing ourselves to feel like we're in a constant rotation of happiness is only a recipe for disaster he was nine years old when I
saw him cry for the first time he's got brown skin from playing out in the sun too long got his head stuck in a cabinet don't know how it happened but it did until the baby this is only the beginning you're gonna get your head stuck in a lot of cabinets and he looks at me and I had him and I realize sometimes tear is see
a lot more than laughter I want to tell him that every time he cries of the part of me died he reminds me that I'm not afraid to ride my tragedies so caught up in a manifestations of happiness you forget we have other feelings too because you don't just throw some of his mom and dad split left diets look on the bright side because you don't
so someone forget what it's like to wake up in the morning to find the light at the end of the tunnel because you don't shut yourself on autopilot when someone tells you there's we lights in a world of balance because sometimes we need darkness to show is exactly what we fight for exactly what we value we are all man made crafted by holy digits we are
