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Published: 2017-09-14
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lCmyOGssh3c
mmhm it's like morning outside but I want to take you the last moments every night before I flew I close my eyes faces the first phase is that this little girl I should call her money I had taken her to the hospital dispensing because she had fallen off to school and Tampa Bay any that a small cut but I did go to the hospital and the
dog does lacked had given that it is having his neck chain and I was taking her and has this hole in the car when she suddenly said caller Santa Barbara she said he did it that's what she could say for five minutes she didn't he did it I'm assistant what clench they're hard what stopped them out from seeing even the way it from what it was
that he did who did to was he I can see how obvious the doc Philadelphia I close my eyes again and I see that she a thirteen year old from Indonesia the state of my local where is the Christian Muslim fighting hundreds dead I could see his eyes as he tells me they nonchalant yeah I've killed many people since I was ten years old I will
stop to kill them take them blocked and bless myself the name of the father the son and the Holy Spirit but I still hear the screams at nineteen what pushed him to do this FIA I don't forget these children but when I open my eyes the first thing in the morning in front of my bed I see this beautiful thought out with a hand Jay's in
blessing when I governments we do the next idea his hand Jay's investing when we get back goddess her hand to his lips and messy when we fall at the feet off our evidence of mine who does my teachers my parents they raise their hands investing what is this happened because do you know this kind this month that is known as a payoff I am a bit
I yeah I have yeah yeah without fear I started this journey to think why when I saw that the feet my mom or my teacher when my sister up at the feet of all these people are given away being but to be without fear the motion I have heard Pappy that many children but if the %HESITATION along that I the only flaw husband all that field
in coming to so why is this kind of why is it called yeah they should be defined what does Daddy for different blessings why because do achieve happiness to have a long life to have trust that if the to be successful two days beautiful children we need to charm said FIA FIA limit sucks and his FIA constricts us and this I have seen in my work
time and again thirty countries five conflict got continents even yielded a book numbers communities that have worked with the children sex life has landmine victims victims of religious violence victims of the tsunami off the earthquakes that have followed yeah I had many millions firstly it is obvious feel for physical safety from hands from rapists from conflict now that what do you think my god you look
at JG look at all those boys I work with they comes to South abuse it is not fear of physical safety back via is subhuman by their fear of not belonging money got kept her mouth shut because she knew her mother would throw out she wouldn't belong anymore then he kept his mouth shut and did what it's please told him to do because otherwise he would
be out all the employees who want to belong to these communities of young men and do what they do because they want to belong but beyond that this is not the FIA I promise you the next door he's funny okay I won't cry anymore it's as Tony Bennett never told and you have to promise not to laugh okay the president saying in public so I was
posted in the ads east of at that island east of %HESITATION the main Samantha island of Indonesia in a beautiful beautiful place killing of itemizing just as another mentioned about hopping picture just now I think it's a bad patch seen to be believed that village escape the earthquake all the effects of the earthquake because their houses their houses at trunks please balanced on stones with but
I'm looking into least about so when the earthquake hit the houses moved swayed but nothing fan it is very short and amazing phenomenon but when that happened that day I wasn't thinking of that I look at the beauty all I was thinking of was my bladder and needed a bottle and unique because sounds like excuse me all moved away those but the nice but like a
step and so they took me to this really nice box with a constructive for all y'all say those of calm and you know what has been on the village because I think I went in I had my moment of epiphany I stood up and my head was stuck to the rules my head is like a five and the rules wives hoping that I so like to
like I was about with my pants around my ankles and my head up the new fun like all of which could be I'm trying to see if I can get my groove on icon and I'm trying to think and pull my hair out I kind so I was stuck did I call for help would you because it is in this field what any appeal yeah basin
hot and say you would have a college because what happened if your parents that I guy I day you so I didn't because I had better you guys met hydrocarbons I was in in hitting cut into makes anything yet I was just shortly Uday of swiping FIA okay so that it was and then just guess what happened we had an earthquake the whole building started to
move was stuck with me shaking it the whole building move the law of farming in the doofus farming and still not calling for help they fineness out and left a chunk of my scalp as mentally ill find but even though fusion with little I am glad my parents at that house the whole bidding for them what I realize that the was this I would draw blood
guy that who's my dignity how stupid is that my fear for my modesty and for my dignity I might eagle strong that then my instinct to survive that is what he does to all the fuss think of the pages to put on our children to become you know full of amazing fast food people we are telling them you do what you like and not you know
you'll be happy go lucky because he wants to be proud of eagle think of all the things that we do to ourselves to live up to this change vision that we have that we should be this and that feels we don't live fulfilling lives it is not just on the privilege of the marginalized people living in again yes all of us whether in internal conflict but
those moments we meet Sean seven and we live complete P. where via is not present does at the moment of of true being Johnson it is said that many lives afia physical safety live eagle issues not wanting to show why and Trudy because you ashamed I'm ashamed of what actually maybe more than that that is one huge fear but harmless although I especially as we get
older fear change fee of impermanence feel that it has a small and large consequences this fear of change it makes us putting to jobs or shoulder relationships that have no meaning they have moved on and it makes us want me about the future we get new dos I'm getting old Aidid what me change all the things that we don't watch Sesame because as you can go
you know I have a lot of white Kennedy proud of it but yes I had this thing for this country thank you and I think you guys check this shit I think among white voters Seoul likely fighting and that's when I had I had been long she don't we hunted and she got me to face my fear of death sure that goes against the two years
ago I stopped everything out when told I have some friends asking you know it even she herself said don't give up your life to come visual thought I knew my every dream date with Paula was learning she faced tough yeah even at seventy five seventy full it's not easy when someone tells you you have a feeling that few months it is never easy whatever age fear
of the unknown but she faces soul you completely I cannot tell you she talked about it that is the biggest she talked about it with me so I could participate in that discussion what it is like I content you the grace and the dignity with which she opened up old wounds finished let go of things enjoy smaller predators of keeping a kind of voters will knock
down that I would make a lot of you know holding up actually recovered visit she chased those days it was amazing the last few days of my life we have floods in shaping dole we had a house we had a calm we had people in August nobody nobody could come that present that was in the house that you have to love you don't take anything with
you what you need behind P. shape but to true true true being a gun so the way I process my fears especially losing my mother was still dark and I can tell you this this is what I would leave you with three things that all along traditional art forms have that we should be learning and joy from but state and for the that's something that even
the Dallas is that fact appeared beside him the connection with ourselves with people within your number that sounds is the call of every Indian traditional classical dogs phone and construction and to be coming UP eclipse Krishna we make it easy then I try and interpret that piece I am creating the image of a child that I love but that child that allows it's ME child out
there a little bit entitled the role my nieces and nephews kids that I don't know in an airport I bet everyone is Krishna but nobody is that is what I this is what makes this iPhone delight to me not the fact that it means all of the billions of dollars that he had god this is it is because we live divinity in our bodies in our
daily lives that that's empathy but everything is part of me and I admit defeat that is true the second thing I want downfall soul many take needs to improve communication just south of the adults we walk on ice follies because we know that is the essential communication we open our bodies we work from Hey dude told to communicate and communicate well that sounds about the third
and the most important thing the call of my body is this I am the one that is seeking right it I also have to incarnate that which is being sought when is divine outside it is a good thing I think don's we learned that if I have to plow McPeak off baby off ship out of even if it means I have to be that way I
have to be the body and I am also no one was I am the question I am down such a these are precious precious precious information we gotta and this is what I do I even not just my life to seek knowledge also in the workshops that I got those speeches I try to infuse the positivity yes that if somebody but drop the FIA just open
your heart the young lady that introduced me mentions that in his cottage exit via I would change that the antidote to FIA is not to college it's not the clincher hands in Namibia fearful we burned badly is the nephew from we want still high even yet fearful we make Wallace we make peace clients this is what's happening inside you got your higher but when they disallowed
it opens so easy and even Sunday making vulnerable in front of the line it because you know you know this is what you'll have to offer what's the point pretending the goddess raises one palm in Albania she also has another hand but at that the hand that gives if your heart can and be without fear automatically we can give without holding back give me from the
