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TEDx Talks
Published: 2017-09-05
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lXzQm58Cgo
good morning when this gets settled then before I start or talk would encourage you to see your house lately and take a deep breath does that really let me the movement around here they're comfortable what goes into lots coming out here Sierra let's get started so argued today his expectation and accepted but teenagers jodhpurs without mound St is to figure out what are the expectations on
as children the adults create your as teenagers you start to question and wonder about the world and question things you baby never questioned before you're deciding what's true for you and which ideas may no longer be around this is where all that tension between teenagers and their parents in the best case scenario once you made it through that tumultuous time you'll become a young adults with
the balance of ideas and thoughts humor brings and the ideas thoughts and philosophies that you come to America there are three major influencers along the way I see parents parents teach you the fundamentals the guiding principles values are to be school and social media hardest battle over Thomas school school is societies instrument to help you learn certain basic subjects and to give you the tools and
skills to develop thoughts and ideas that movie to be successful responsible productive member of society so what is our society's formula for success what is expected with young people ultimately what dictates the school's mandate to deliver the necessary components Schaefer minds of our citizens create a well rounded person what I see is a box in the outbox there are several categories but we need to fulfill
with some minor very but still pretty much within the box main categories we have our academics get good grades so you get into a good college extracurricular activities a sport an instrument but part of it preferably all three and service to others volunteering that activity Bucklow across there is coarse riding in all these categories you can choose either to take regular classes on those because of
the there's you can aim for a variety of colleges that are considered the bass you can choose which sport instrument or art appeals to you you can choose your volunteer palace which club to join her which caused a champion but you pretty much must choose within those categories to increase your chances of success as defined by our society currently ideally you'll find enjoyment in this act
happiness and purpose to but what happens when you don't what happens when the categories in the box don't appeal to you Feuerbach they're getting or they don't make sense to you or you're so busy doing them all that you lose your sense of purpose but you still become a successful person I'm hopeful social media social media feeds and shapes our thoughts feelings and opinions morning to
night day after day Hubble look weaponry beat what is fun trendy pull who's doing what provided which college who's crushing on her own great great ideas are out there what stupid things are happening black people's views on politics art music the list goes on every day we check it Iraq he said affected entertained abused upset with it it's a daily part of our lives and influences
what define success so back to the question of playfulness sensible person with everything that comes out a young person parents school social media I wonder how much time people actually spend velvety their own true self and accepting that self fighting for themselves right to exist in order to find out who you are I want to encourage you to take ten minutes each day unplug disconnect and
just sit with her own thoughts no homework no to do lists four hands go outside your backyard party do nothing other than let your mind wander what are the boss of come to you what do you what matters to you warden things do you bring to the world if the answers to those life questions fit into the box right then you're probably generally happy person if
those answers lie outside the box that's great too but you may struggle to accept who you are and get others to do the same in the long run though it will be a happier person if you can follow what matters to you rather than a path that has been prescribed for you but first you have to take the time to figure out what is important granted
it might be hard to give it your parents or caregivers that you want to live and work on a farm or other work in an art gallery before you go let's well it just work and made him realize you really want revenge we don't want to go to college or go to a little known college that has the right program for you well worse yourself in
another culture learn the language or tour with the bands or learn a trade one major in the subject you're passionate about not what we think is going to make you the most money but try ridiculous readers out and if that's not possible then make sure to follow your pound when you're in adults define what success means to you there are so many roads to becoming that
