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TEDx Talks
Published: 2017-06-30
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0SKfEB7PCjg
re transparent is to be safe there it's to allow light to pass through so the objects behind can be distinctly scene when looking at a person such as the one above several trees can be determined by just from visual appearance such as a person's race economic status interests or even gender why not treat is gender it can be kind of confusing to try to categorize someone
that doesn't fit into the typical binary standards and their chances however is transparent or see through they only view them on says formative faces the degree to which a transgender person is viewed can be described onto opposing concepts these two opposing concepts are put on a spectrum of passing in being the standard passing is when a person looks enough like they're identified gender to seem like
they were assigned at birth this for many trans people is seen as the ultimate goal however at this can also enforce gender roles and mean I I hear it's your persons arch especially trans persons true interests or needs for example for a small tram guy like me it would take years of HRT witches hormone replacement therapy maybe top surgery maybe a couple extra inches still look
like I was born male but maybe that's not what I truly want maybe that's really uncomfortable to go through and this also enforces what other males perhaps assist males people were born says or one fifth born male %HESITATION should look like as well and that's not exactly how our society works a little bit more free form the not but and also not all trans people wish
to go through these star heard through these procedures but if they don't they have a fear of not being taken seriously and hoping that standard being a standard is the fear of being a standard is being perceived as the gender that you are not identifying as and is most commonly the gender that you were born out as for many trans people this can be %HESITATION this
can lead to increased anxiety or depression and does a lot of feelings of discomfort and this isn't really uncomfortable situation for me when I miss gendered it just makes my heart sink it makes me feel like I can't really stand up for myself and it's just not it just really uncomfortable I don't know what to do in those situations I feel like I don't have a
say in my own identity %HESITATION and it feels like I'm not doing good enough as a person as a man to be who I want to be and due to these two concepts crossing in being miss gendered people are put on a sort of all and nothing scale you either pass or you don't the world sees through their trans identity and views among only sets normative
standards leaving behind only conformity even when a person is not says they're expected to conform to looking either fully mail are fully female I know life is completely dependent on how well they do that regardless of whether they're being missed under it or whether they're passing he is long as you don't look trans then it's acceptable I was watching a video the other day about someone
who is speaking and they were talking about how important it was for other people that trans people to receive medical treatment %HESITATION specifically like hormone replacement therapy %HESITATION and when it's given when hormone replacement therapy is given up a young enough age it's easier for trans people too transition and look more like their identify gender and this person was promoting this strategy because it's easier to
transition through this and if they get this these hormones are young enough age they're able to look six they're able to pass easier and he then said that they're able to look normal and are able to achieve beauty through the US and while this may seem good that kids are not even kids but people are getting that many young of age when they feel ready %HESITATION
it just it more expresses that we don't want that we may be willing to support trans people but we're not willing to support them when they look like trans people were more willing to support them in their journey to conforming to set standards that we want them to look not like themselves for me since I have not transitioned it is rare for people to use my
name or pronouns whether I am called by what I prefer it depends on how accepting the art of my identity and whether I am brave enough to correct them even though I pretty much look trans a lot of people don't really go by that some will call me by my name in pronouns and others while I live by two separate identities just depending on how willing
they are to cooperate with my lifestyle it doesn't matter who I say I am it just matters on how they view but what matters more is of my very identity is an ethical debate people debate over my existence while I'm standing right next to them this is what I mean by transparent the as a trans person you can't speak for your identity but you can't speak
for yourself but your identity is up to the interpretation of others no matter where you go to summarize the options a trans person as are limited to three imagine that you're a trans person for a second that you have three options ahead of you one option is the option of passing you could pay thousands of dollars and submit to gender stereotypes and %HESITATION I mean there's
a lot of money to do that and maybe you don't really want to but I mean you would fit in with your identify gender and people would call you by your preferred name and prefer pronouns and eccentric without much hassle the second part is a populist ending you choose not to transition and says you are however this can also lead to discomfort and just feelings of
discontent within yourself because you know the it's just not right and people are perceiving is who you're you're not and then last after was the path of gender expression wary you just used address however you want to and you know %HESITATION you just choose to do whatever you want you can express yourself just really but even this can have really negative a fax because stepping out
of the gender norms doesn't always have positive feedback and especially in our society and it can face ridicule and violence even and I want I really want to emphasize that being trans is a lot more than just becoming a boy or becoming a girl it's reaching ultimate self awareness and it's it's desperately trying to explain why you changed your name and it's a game of gassing
of who is accepting and who isn't and having an identity that is dependent on the morality and opinions of others and the perception of others and to achieve visibility we can all start by just kind of accepting more not me a expressions and even though from a young age we're taught to associate characteristics that may be traditionally male and female as even traditionally male and female
might be is starting to step out of those boundaries for example it might not be uncommon for a woman to not shave her legs anymore which was traditionally a masculine thing to do or maybe men more often will wear skirts or make up that's not something we won't see in our society today even these people who are taking on a more ambiguous expression they will receive
ridicule sometimes and it's it doesn't feel completely safe to do so by warning courage on environment where no matter what kind of gender identity you're taking honor what kind of expression you want to take on the dot it's okay to do that that you can express yourself however you want and identify however you want while still being respected in the way that you want to be
however you identify should be respected regardless of how you want to dress and because of this increase of gender expression in our society it is important that we stop associating gender with appearance because gender and appearance are really linked anymore sometimes males won't look like the traditional picture of a male and sometimes females what looked like the traditional picture of female it doesn't matter if they're
sister trans sometimes you just can't tell anymore so instead we just got to ask so and maybe it feels a little weird to ask somebody for their gender are afraid you know just how they identify by a good way to do this is asking someone for their pronouns yeah vote by asking someone for their pronounce it really just put some somebody's identity and their hands it
lets them have a say in who they are instead of just assuming who they are they're able to express themselves and it's by asking the question you're saying you're openly thing that you want to respect them instead of if somebody was Mr under a need for example I I have a fear of like speaking out and I feel like I don't interrupt them but if they
were just ask me in the first place if they were just normalizing and just straight up say it then I would feel open to it I would feel okay I wouldn't feel weird about it and neither would they would become a normal occurrence to ask for pronouns and I wouldn't feel uncomfortable at all so if we normalize action of asking for each other's pronouns we wouldn't
associate under with the parents anymore and we wouldn't have to worry about disrespecting anybody based on their appearance or creating discomfort within our society treating trans people regardless of how far they've transition like regular people will discrete split will decrease the transparency I give trans people a voice in their identities and letting them know that we care we all have gender identities and we all deserve
to be treated accordingly and respected this is about promoting a future where we all are all respected and we are creating of an environment where we disassociate gender and appearance this the spectrums have advanced so far beyond the norm such as like gender expression and the ambiguous expression of people that I was talking about that there is just no Normandy more there's no normal we're all
just human and we like to express ourselves however we want to and we can't hold people to these expectations anymore and trans people even though they're growing society we can't disconnect these things on our own we need the help of the entire community sets entrance alike to help disconnect these things and just create a loving environment to people of all expressions in all identities and liking
