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Published: 2017-09-05
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Vp3c1vaRvM
your story scenes that calm organized by students headaches youth and as did see when I was younger my mom told me that if I ever found someone that I clicked with someone I can trust someone who would always be there for me I should hold on to them and never let them go and when I got older my parents told me that when I went to
high school another my grade school friends one with me I should hold on to them because they'll be friends I would keep for life but what if I did let them go or what if I want something get in the way since the day Alex and I met in kindergarten everyone expected something of us we went to a small school with about sixty kids in a
grade so we knew each other pretty well however it wasn't until the second grade when we became best friends and from then on everyone expected us to date or at least like each other parents did teachers did too I was at a teacher pulled me aside after recess and ask find a crush on her don't get me started on our classmates my basketball teammates use it
constantly ask me a question Alex I'm a grocer becoming a big deal because the hormones and what not guys would drill me about him and I wish us both out because we always ourselves just as friends and nothing more but they got the better of us everyone constantly reassuring me %HESITATION you love Alexander you just can't see it yet where you're perfect for each other just
let's keep it do its thing we actually believe I had a crush on this loser no offense none taken loser but I to me got to feel like I liked and around the fifth grade I finally had enough and decided maybe I should date and it all began with a flirty conversation and it wasn't what you might call a smooth conversation because we were only in
the eighth grade at the time remember how that went how can I forget it was in the most awkward conversation I've ever had you've done so much worse hang up Alex yeah I know have a crush on someone just to and %HESITATION I don't know hill well I stall he wears glasses and he's standing right next to %HESITATION I know yeah well the feelings mutual we're
gonna spare you guys the details on the rest of the conversation because it just gets worse from there but in short and I quickly became the coolest couple on campus which was pretty the because we're the only couple on campus and that is when things started going south see unfortunately for us the coolest couple on campus was coincidentally the most awkward couple on campus I'm what
people would call socially inept and Alex is exactly the smoothest guy out there either can you look at the way you standing okay to be honest I don't exactly know how to stand up here but back to us yeah we were on a few dates and they're also pretty okay like we had when we had a picnic on our favorite spot are not lost on unique
and bound up the Baker beach but I think the first time I realized this was not going to work out without our eighth grade dance we were excited wheat the most experienced couple in the entire grade would finally sure some software appears but in retrospect we really should've seen it coming as soon as we stepped onto the dance floor everyone came up to us and took
pictures of us what we're some kind of museum exhibit that's a some extent yeah I guess we should like that attention if something didn't click but by far the worst moment of the entire evening was when my friend strike means the militants floor and my friends shoved me into it and all fifty of our classmates surrounded us singing and only ally take sitting in a tree
I SS I and he and it was at that moment that I didn't feel it ends boyfriend anymore I thought well it's some kind of prey chop by predators ready to tear me or us apart I tried to break my way out of the circle they just pushed me back in they're singing got louder mine's IT skyrocketed and I felt as if I couldn't pres and
you know how I finally got out I ground and by the arm smuggling to Herald the Wall people and jump three so there we were the coolest couple on campus hiding in the back of the dance hall awkwardly dancing with each other and trying not to let that dramatic experience from the rest of my evening together however it didn't help that after the dance teachers begin
to interrogate a son exactly what we did back then but please them you in that dress sorry I remember exactly what you were she wore black and purple stripes why did you just ask me for help okay it was twenty fourteen Alexander no one knew anything about fashion you look like an optical illusion spike might her in this fashion choice choices plural choice is something sildenafil
right I thought I'd enjoy the attention I thought I'd have my ferrets a moment with my Prince Charming though not exactly what I'd call Jeremy in %HESITATION please but I to thought a like a spotlight I mean it sounded great really fun actually because everyone loved us but all this folly did was finally on the reality I wasn't ready to confront you know what despite all
these warnings to stop Alex and I continued today maybe it's because we're afraid to disappoint everyone how heart broken would everyone be coolest couple on campus broke up or maybe we were too afraid to lose each other but that's exactly what started to happen and when I started shooting each other more as significant others and muscles friends and this became most obvious in of all places
our texts what do you think falling conversations about our passions and aspirations turned a few word attacks everyday Hey had have a great day thanks to love you but the two night goodnight love you love you too and that was it some cycle no repeat for months on end and it became clear to both of us that we were losing not only the passion for the
relationship but for each other and eventually as is continued we found that enough was enough on January twenty fourth two thousand fifteen a year and ten days after we broke up we broke up sorry I meant to say I'll be here in ten days after we started these members of fuzzy I lost my best friend in the entire world I finally found someone I clicked with
someone I can trust someone who would always be there for me and I let him go and I let something get in the way we used to always talk to and confide in each other but now we were silent for months and I don't know how to make it better to this day I'm not sure how Alex nine maybe it was a mutual friends or maybe
it was our history personally I think it's because he started having a ton of personal problems high schoolers and we just want to read to each other again it shocked me most was after months of not speaking to each other it didn't take us very long get back on track don't get me wrong we worked hard to fix we talked to our problems inside and outside
of our relationship but to be completely honest with you I think we just found something deep within ourselves that convinces the Swiss never gonna happen again and after we got past all that things are becoming normal again so no one in fact we started to treat our relationship like a joke funny messed up joke Alex and I decided turn heartbreaking to happiness every year on the
anniversary of our break up Alex and I instead celebrate our friendship by recreating all dates and every general twenty fourth we text each other at the break of day let's never did again I agree this year I mean I celebrate ten years of friendship that's right after a horrendous relationship and horrendous breakup we managed to revitalize our friendship and if anything we made it stronger practically
family now time apart away from Alex beam realize how important he is to me and how lucky I am to have a my life yeah and as much as I love to ride on and for her height her personality her singing and dancing that's about a stiff as a wooden board her messy rooms hasn't cleaned and what five years and her mouth until sometime maybe ten
years of friendship is enough standard heard constant interruptions she is still a wonderful person who was home shaped me into who I am today looking back we relation updated but to be completely honest with you I don't regret a single mom we learned first hand what was really important to us so who cared if coolest couple on campus to get married although we care about is
within my some break up separatist forever when I was younger my mom told me that if I found someone I clicked with so I could trust someone who would always be there for me I should hold on to them and never let them go and when I got older my parents told me that when I went to high school and out of my grade school friends
went with me I still keep in touch with them because they'll be friends I keep for life and I promised myself even if things got rough I would do anything and everything to hold on to that someone special so to date or not today that might be the question but to lose someone that you really love or to hold on to a friend for life that
