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Published: 2014-11-25
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a2MR5XbJtXU
it's this moment isn't it I'm looking at you and you look like a really nice bunch that's been such great energy I was sitting in for five minutes and it just feels great this room and you know it really friendly enough Chris of thank you I'm you're looking a bit on sure you know voice fine and I can see a couple of really brainy ten faces
then this gonna be a few ideas to but is this moment this my little ice all worlds are colliding right now you're looking at me I'm looking at you and it hits my brain with the feeling of a and then accelerating molecules you might say and different people deal with this moment differently some of us go Hey you know there are people who are confident they
cope with this month totally fine and then there are other people and not so confident and it stops them speaking this moment makes them feel anxious makes them feel maybe then up to it and that is not the case actually all of us have confidence within and what I want to talk about today is the idea that we can find more confidence within us if we
know where to look where do we look we go within we look under the phone that's where we're going next and the reason I want to talk about this is because many years ago I stood in front of an audience this big Bega at central hole which is by the houses of parliament big Methodist space I was super excited about that moment because I knew that
it was my big moment as a rookie voice coach and I was gonna be able to speak and I stepped out in front of that audience and what happened was everything that could possibly go wrong dates I went to false I lost my words it felt like such a horrible experience and just as I thought it couldn't get any worse the microphone broke and I know
it's out across the room and I said in my big voice coach voice there wasn't this much wind at the time I have to say and I said in my big voice coach voice can you hear me at the back and someone said speak up and I just felt this feeling of absolute shame that feeling of an audience looking at you in a feeling of judgment
which correct possess anon left out a venue and I thought to myself never again not likely to work as a media I also so I'm gonna do it differently next time I'm gonna make sure that the next time I stand up to speak it feels goods I'm where I have to go was within now we live in a really visual culture we spend a lot of
time if we see two worlds we spent a lot of time thinking about the maybe especially for women I actually confidence doesn't exist on the outside exists within in the visceral stuff in the best within you that we don't see when we get to go to those bits and what I was thinking about this idea three months ago when I also do it to start to
feel nervous about this moment I started to think about a quote that the directive piece of Brooke had sent which is that we open neutrals in the south I started to think about a chest of drawers and then I came across this really cool banking call George McAdams actually sitting there I said to George can you make me a chest of drawers and he did that
you might be wondering what the subjects he's and what the subject is here is what Joe tonight but when you ask him make it's a make a chest of drawers they don't always do what you think they gonna do joy to see what he did yeah thanks George best response of the morning upstaged by the furniture I'm within this little chest Andrews this rather big manly
chest of draws is well all three secrets to finding confidence within three lessons I had to learn on the way that is a big lesson here the last lesson is the big one we're gonna get that it's not what you might think it's a lesson that might surprise you but first would you like to see inside the first rule that delicate balance jokes so what we
have in here is an instrument because as you've just been hearing the voice is the most amazing instrument it's my Nixon and how often do you think about how you use works because like this little guitar it has a string and it has a data west a string of your voice a Honda here give it shakes your larynx the other get everybody eleven eighty eight is
the and then the headset is the ad now when you know that your voice is an instrument what does that tell you you know people come to me and they say what's good about voice some nuggets speak %HESITATION I get worried about this kind of moment I hate me today presentations come do it the voice is an instrument there's no such thing as a bad saxophonist
that because when we hear a great saxophonist and he's probably somewhere down here what we know is that they've practiced alone that not only do they have talent but also that they have worked and worked and worked to get a great sound now if you ever doubt the sound of your voice let me tell you all you have to do is practice when I was worrying
about that moment I'm gonna call my central hole of shame because it was well I remember it was the story of a guy in ancient Greece cold Demosthenes that's a big a big old name so we got a call in the Greek dude from now on which actually is also a bit of a big word so much school day I think not today was speaking at
the assembly which is like the other two we have Simon in the room is slightly the Brixton academy of the Greek via ancient Greek world and he was feeling pretty knows he wanted to be an artsy ours is what the rock styles of that day and so he did himself up for this big moment at the assembly and you know what he bombed they said he
was uncouth in his speaking and that he stammered and so the audience cheers as in they threw stuff please don't do that and he left that stage feeling so down costs when he got a bit advice from NASA not show greed taxes were pretty much the same as they are now and I'm sure the acting was a bit like this who what he said to him
is you need more expression in your voice just not giving enough Wendy if energy and you also need to believe in yourself because the message is good so Demosthenes takes himself back home and he goes for it this is his rocky moments he bills himself an underground Santa he shakes his head off of his head so they don't leave the house for three months and then
he practices for three months solid in front of a a big shield that's published like Camaro when he's ready when he's up there he goes I guess the scene he speaks over the waves say he please voice has to bear mouse over the waves and then he goes back he goes back to the assembly and he speaks again and he becomes known as one of the
greatest artists of his day so what does that tell you it tells you about practice the power of practice now you might not want to shave off your head you might know one of those on the ground seven because the council might have words but what you can do is practice and the simplest way to practice is to sing you don't have to do a big
mama ma ma voice coach will month unless you want to why Brady recommends that every day saying someone sing in the shower sing in the car sing on that shoot if you feel brave I wasn't so Thomas's hospital for a blood test about two weeks ago there were two women singing in the in the space where the blood tests were having which was or a phase
so I recommended singing is the way to a great voice practice is the way to a great instruments that's lesson one now we have another true which we're gonna open in a moment the before we get into a good question say you walk into a room okay you don't know anybody some of you may have had that feeling this morning how do you know who the
most powerful person in the room is the person with the most confidence that in a confidence that we're going from here how could you tell how they carry themselves that's lovely letter and you get you know you you're in the same space on you because you're a singer and it is not how they carry themselves and actually what not to will tell you is that it's
about the brass the most powerful person in the room has the most relaxed breeding patent and this is a well known scientists cool pull and then he looks into emotion and he said which would make axes love because it seems so straight forward to them that maybe isn't to science that he can understand why breast masses for a long time and he is in his researches
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