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Published: 2013-02-01
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talk to them after just give me the clicker who I guess you don need costly now do you my name is saying these are I'm a dancer author it and the norm I started my talk with a seductive dance because I wanted to first feel the seduction to get you canna to got level I'm fascinated with seduction but not just with the dance and movements but
also with how you can bring it in a practical way to day to day life since two thousand and five I've been traveling back and forth to Cuba here to train with the best professional dancers this is when I first started seeing seduction is a valuable life skill I'm so fascinated with seduction the nine year but mostly because a satire playful fun thing I truly believe
that everyone has the power to seduce in them we just need to unleash it and I also believe that we need to develop the skill from a very young age seeking help us become a lot more successful in life so let's examine seduction for a second and let's take a look at our perception of seduction what it all means when we first hear the word seduction
we have a lot of misconception the word has been sexualized so many times that we can't even imagine it as a positive skill set we typically set associates seduction was something negative because we consider the less honest or acceptable form of influence people who are easily seduced to some degree film in the fleet into the situation when we think of gender roles it's not even a
question the men are committed a lot more freedom than women to seduce and when we think of work and seduction we merely go to sleeping away to the top and being unprofessional you know how people say some people say that money's bad but the money itself is not bad right it comes down to money gives you power and power can be used for good or for
bad comes down to who you are inside seduction is exactly the same it comes down to your DNA and what you choose to do with it I choose to make seduction classy and to add to it my sense of loyalty and integrity seduction is really about your untapped power the you know using the one to unleash would we tell Superman not to stop a bullet or
doctor not to save a life but of course not seduction is about charm connection vulnerability pride self confidence an appeal I am one of those lucky ones gets to go to Cuba all the time and I've been observing this culture from a very long time seeing how aware they seem to be their seductive powers you can say that in many ways Cuba's been like us adoption
laboratory for me where I get to study seduction understand how the use better but it's not like humans are the only people in the world that in the Senate know how do you seduction right thank you can experience in other countries in the world and Israel in Brazil and in the many cans and many other countries and yet in Cuba I found a combination of things
very unique combination of things but I haven't found it anywhere else in the world and I'll speak about some of them today and you're probably a gruesome when I'll say that the chances of finding this kind of seduction out in the open in North America eyes Pridi closest lemonade I truly believe that we can learn a valuable life lesson from Cubans about life and seduction and
having said that if we were to try and take seduction and break it into some kind of a formula what would that look like one desire start taking notes desire means knowing what you want and then having the willingness to go after it includes boombox is the game of seduction between the man and the woman the woman is the flirty hand and the guys a seductive
rooster the woman uses her body seduced meant to say wanna come again the guy on the other hand will use his body to demonstrate his masculinity I'll try to decoy her burned launching an attack he's trying to pecker her and get her pregnant she'll notice the attack she'll block it Schumacher him for not succeeding sugar didn't make it try again Cubans interact on the streets everyday
is if they're playing the game of whom the keep attention either %HESITATION aka sexy tension always alive right it's like you could almost have it but not but if you only tried then maybe keeping the may be alive is the skill of presenting potential possibilities and then fueling them with desire it's about learning where the emotional buttons are and then triggering them when there is real
desire even if it's hidden possible to lure it out but you've really gotta get with the other person is missing and then give it to them and with don right it's virtually impossible to say no to number two confidence strong self confidence is essential for seduction without it you can go after we want our self image is formed a very young age it is deeply affected
by our environment Cubans praise their kids in a very young age I feel confident and stunning in their own bodies because he recognizes is a very valuable life skill you'll see them in the Pulitzer hotel the music is like blasting their grinding to the music and not ones are grinning right beside the middle to them and say came even though getting that is you so beautiful
add to this that in Cuba there's no advertising the communist country so there's nothing that distorts the body image Cubans not like us are not thanks did by the media to try and think that they need a perfect body instead their self image is formed out of how stunning them the environment makes them feel and how much love the get it home as a result of
all of this Cuba's grow up feeling intense pride and self confidence no matter what body type reshape the might have and it's this kind of self confidence leaves later on to how you present yourself in all areas of your life and how you succeed body language when you walk on the streets of Havana guys and girls check each other out in the open all the time
not trying to hide it you guys Costa women with Linda but is still some in women respond with how they hold their bodies and headaches century the crews in the la because they know they're being noticed and admired and I like it it makes it really easy to seduce and be seduced because you know what the other person is it's feeling seduction also shows up in
a tone of your voice the kind of look you give what you say and how you say it and at times even adding a little touch body language is very important for seduction because community city of the person who you want number four arousal effectively seduce someone there has to be an activation of the arousal waking up in them the desire to give you what you
want and luring it out but first you have to connect and interact with the other person if not then how you get to the Hyatt and for seduction to really work you have to give me your undivided attention in a moment one of the most charming things that I've noticed about Cuban men is how they go after what they want completely fearless of the consequences of
getting hurt or getting rejected they will seduce a woman over and over making her feel desired in special even after she said no a couple of times slowly sneaking into her heart and waking up that desire in NO there was a maybe turns into a yes that's a damn sexy this fearlessness a failure is a profoundly powerful capability that I've noticed in some of the most
seductive people that I've ever met but they can do this because they've developed their intuitions so much so that they can easily distinguish between a no the means and no and no means maybe because the last thing you want to do is rip is not accepted no that means NO so what I really want you to gas is that everyone has the power to seduce in
them trick is to learn how to use it and when seduction is a skill no matter how you look at it you can call it wooing persuading winning someone over charming doesn't really matter but what it is is really about using all of the elements that I talked about here in the talk his one desire to confidence three body language for arousal to build the connection
the gets you what you want it's also important to remember that seduction is a science is so if it is not a science but an irate and that's the beauty of it comes from the heart like any art it can definitely be tight to fully gain self expression in it have to take the time to master it in making your own my hope is that you
will see seduction is a valuable life skill as I have learned to because so many people lose that childlike attitude is a grow into adulthood and something's missing and wouldn't the world be a better place if we didn't I really believe the seduction leads to self confidence in self confidence leads to success in all areas of your life master seduction and you can have anything they