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Published: 2017-08-25
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RxGcceAh_YE
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once had someone say all when I was six years old I created a drawing and I had someone else once I hope when I was in high school I created a painting right I think it and that I was even had someone go into explicit detail about how they formulate the perfect but it's got to become a biscuit vanilla ice can bring backup life but sprinkles
and what I said to this person why said now I'm hungry keep your eyes glaze when I ask this question people have answered with a physical object of some sort the drawing the paintings the cookies physical objects now I want you all to open your eyes there is something that you have all created something but you're all going to create and something that you're creating right
now you owe creating change now whether that changes in your whether that changes in all this or whether that changes in your environments you will also creating change I like to call it the three goals of controlling change the self environments and others waste shame a waste of space shame a waste of F. shame waste that is what I was cooled shame that is what I
felt namaste my name is Gerry Donncha mullah better goofy Lago happy Edea I'm twenty three years old and I was born in Australia the kangaroos I'm here today to talk to you about my theory about the three things and how this very changed my life a three phase of courage change and control and how this links into my three circles of controlling change self environments and
others best to give you the next I would like to share my story with you all as I mentioned I'm from the land of the kangaroos but I haven't mentioned yet is that I've lived in sixteen different harms throughout my life and fifteen of those tires before high school now due to financial difficulty I had the consistently move I packed up my belongings with my family
and we have to move from one place to another and then the owner of that house that want to sell the house and have to pick up as the belongings into boxes again and move once again and the same thing would happen Sir if the pack up our lives into boxes again and move once book and that it hurt for a better future I would move
far away and that wouldn't work out so we have to move all the way back for a child growing up this double foundation is constant moving between difference meant that I never fully gained since my I was born in Queensland a number down it has meant and it back up the queen but I doubt it has mayor again it back up to Cleveland moved around claims
that they've done that about Melvin and then to Ballarat where I started my university this constant changing environments but I had no control over led to my confidence being very unsettled hottest move to a new high school but I unfortunately underwent bullying I was quoted waste of space I was called a waste of and I had once been spat upon and been told the world to
be better off without me I felt very disempowered but I kept pushing on I was pulled names and made fun of bullies because I was of mixed background because I was of mixed race my parents were born of the safe I was told that I should go back to wearing country that I don't belong in Australia but no one wants me that I started to develop
shame shame was I Wyeth Ishii grew and grew until one day my best friend came up to me and you didn't say it in a rude way but she came up to me to ask me Jedi I use of mixed race and I said without hesitation no I I said I'm Michelle in my parents are Australian and we all wish Allen I completely denied my multi
cultural heritage my identity issues but sorry about that eventually I didn't want people to make my own mother he was of Chinese heritage I didn't want people to hate her my I'm beautiful and loving mother that's that was the lowest point me but then I braved the university of Ballarat in Victoria Australia and yes once again I had moved so I wouldn't know I anyone I
was unsure had lots of questions but when I woke I told myself something I promised myself something as I walk through the doors of the evening I promised myself that I would have the courage chains just like when you will close to rise you fell on social you didn't know what question I was going to ask you so therefore you had questions and that's just it
sometimes in life you don't know what's going to happen you're going to feel like you're in the dock like your eyes are closed but all you have to do is to open your eyes and to realize the opportunities for change there are opportunities for change all the you just have to have the courage see it and not just the cars to see it but the coverage
act upon it and it is this word courage which is the first of my three sees the three things that changed my life you first need to have the courage to create change into Ben gain control of your life so when I said at the university of Ballarat yes I was on shel but I promised myself that I would have the courage change so I started
to look apple apple juice the volunteer my time and I thought to volunteer for countless nations and initiatives and eventually outlook a volunteer organization called the same program well I was able to mental indigenous Australians about the aboriginal identity two years after helping these indigenous students become proud of who they were two years of making these indigenous students product aboriginal identity I then realized something I
had developed the courage create change in other but I off must up if I'd been helping the students become part of their identity why am I not proud of my early not at this stage I had gained the courage to create change in other but I hadn't yet gained the courage to create change in myself old to know what my true environment should be the office
one question why am I not part of my own identity everything's Brenda brown speaks about the power of vulnerability in one if it had tools and it is true I decided to enter a competition to become vulnerable to share my story of pulling this competition was about the community and how I've helped the community and how the committee's helped me I entered this competition and I
shared my story on social media about my identity issues I became vulnerable and the reaction was overwhelmingly positive are just living in boxes messages and even Frankel's of encouragement I ended up winning the competition and then the turning point of opportunities presented itself a young lady who had volunteered me six months prior then approached me and she asked me Jedi at the considered volunteering overseas in
the pope okay I had never considered volunteering overseas and I had identity issues but now I was open to the opportunity I took the opportunity to change my environments I went to the pool there are moments in life where you find true identity true happiness true belonging and for good reason and mom was coming to the pool for the fifth time when I walked down that
hill holding the hands of the young children I had toward will die at a low such economic region of the pool looked down that hill and walk to their parents time was with literally a little mud huts made of bamboo and mods and the parents on the ground notes cooking with the little money they had for their family in a small broken part on the ground
when I saw them their faces light up and they offered me food and tea even though they had so little it was in that moment I realize I had nothing to worry about that I was so lucky that I should not feel ashamed that I'm a flip flop is worth something I can use my international connections and my heritage to help people around the world and
to help people in the pool at this stage I had developed the courage to create change in all this through volunteering at then gained the courage to create change in my environment by coming to the people and it was only then and control in creating change within myself and now is of a thankful heart and a soul full of gratitude that I sh well my passion
in two thousand and sixteen as you know a devastating earthquake nipple some will not a percent of the housing and some others lost everything families lost loved ones villages let's houses and homes and some people lost everything but hot this all happened on the twenty fifth of April which happens to be coincidently on my birthday I was devastated I didn't sleep for diet I was receiving
personal messages pitches stories from people I connected with in the poll I was heart broken on the third not of not sleeping probably my beautiful family came up to me and they said JD you need to help nipple I'm not reflected I was born on the day you had the F. bikes and it made me realize that maybe I was born to do so about this
so I stayed up until one I am in the morning recess what can I do to help Nepal what can I do to help the pull and I have the very next day having two meetings of influential members of the university staff within five days refund ways of a five hundred dollars within a week after we plan live another one thousand dollars within seven months be
fun right eleven thousand dollars and now I am proud to say that I am the founder and program director of my own non for profit charity called the help no pull appeal I have an incredible growth and they're helping people around the pool individuals families and communities through education construction empowerment ends change we use social media to connect people internationally as well as nationally to work
as a team and to help improve areas of the people that really need the help that as you know maybe I'll use value of mine it was one of the best things that allowed me to write about my identity issues the sulfonamide I have helped thousands of Nepalese people in regions such as Caskey talk alum John copper and local to come into districts we focus on
empowering others to make other people independent and not dependent on our help none of this there's some programs such as plantation programs bringing commit thirty special needs programs and one about copyright lunch programs by the tendons rights in school from forty to sixty percent to eighty two hundred but at under percent attendance as human beings it is our to follow and to not let the words
of negative people hold us down but you have to let the words of negative people to fuel laugh two one six take control to once a signs and as to make a positive difference according to another bullying dot com two thousand and sixteen a two thousand and fourteen UCLA psychology study showed that seventeen point six percent of teens have witnessed bullying in their schools and a
hundred and sixty thousand people according to my plane dot com skip school due to welding and one in ten students reporter plate drop out of school because of repeated pulling I want all of the people who have been put down bullied all of those who feel shame in some way or just that you feel that for all of your life I want you to know I
but you do have the power to make positive change that you do have the power to take control of your life there's a movie could I origins written and directed by Michael can heal I urge is about a couple a man who was a scientist who thinks extremely logically and a woman who believe that other forces in the world and this scientist doesn't wanna believe anything
he kept change this way of thoughts this simple woman tends to the scientists and says I want you to look down at the way you've been using of the subject the man looks out of the way bositis looked out the window been using of the subject and the woman says this while rhymes this one cannot see the lie that is surrounding it to this web log
does not exist but even prior to this land lot does not exist even better to this plan is full of does not exist lots it's completely surrounding the web maybe there are things in our world that we cannot say but accompli hunting us about the we cannot say and some say the things clearly we need to know Kennedy's or chains maybe it's simply living in the
moment rising how you can help someone don't underestimate the power to smile opening a door for someone or picking up someone's belongings when they drop it maybe it's not having your eyes closed but opening arrive in realizing the opportunities for change maybe it's finally dressing the way that best matches you well deciding to reflect about the wells and realizing you have the potential to take ownership
and make a change of the issues with it maybe it's starting a family well maybe it's finally leery of leaving but unsatisfying job environment and pursuing a career that no one believed you could do maybe it's proving the bullies wrong in order to gain control of your life you fascinate to lose control to take a leap of faith as the cliche goes entered then realize the
opportunities for change I had no idea what was going to happen when I into that competition maybe I'd be made fun of moral I also had no idea what experiences awaited me in the pool but I let go of control I lived in the moment and I pushed my boundaries and it was in the on nine that I found my passion was when I pushed my
boundaries and let go of control that I truly gained control of my life and now it is my mission to share my story to share my theory of the three thieves and to allow the help the pull appeal to help others to find their identity their confidence their strength and to fuel the passion I think the mental others help others and to live for others that
help the poor people allows people to realize they have the potential to create change in their environment to create change in others and most importantly to create change in themselves it is my dream to do the help of Paul appealed full time one day to be so by individuals sponsored charity work and effective grassroots levels and it's my team in my absolute to raise our Facebook
Lotta if the grandfather to bring more traffic to our website that we can spread moral what I'll not for profit transparency about our billeted to bring ideas to live about our empowering programs all and in regards to my identity issues well I'm not proud to say that I'm hot Dutch top Chinese born initially living in the UK traveling through Europe learning about the world of passion
about nipple so he he he wants to take control of their lives he he wants to take control of the last wonderful it is my passion share about the three things I want you also reflect about yourself your environments and others have the courage create change tight control of your life how miracle I get personal pot just we should live by this study about thank you
