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Published: 2017-09-06
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Yj5BaqXFNI
on my last day of primary school my mom picked me up and took me to the airport and so I was flying for the first time alone to London to meet my dad and because I was an unaccompanied minor I got special attention and packets of paper and pencils in my meals served first and then when I went to the tiny bathroom I discovers I've become
a loathing I already felt pretty sophisticated flying solo but the Swiss next level and I wanted to bust out of the cubicle and say %HESITATION I'm just letting you know I I won't be requiring anymore accompanying because I'm a pleading and %HESITATION ari arrives is a native American Indian saying that befits the moment when a woman faceplates she mates have power in a gladius practices have
power and at menopause comes it so thirty thousand FE I met my power but at the time I didn't recognize it like everyone else I knew the relationship I had to my menstrual cycle was these I knew when I had my period I knew and I didn't and I'm worried when it was lights so is this power and would have to do with my period I
wouldn't find that out for another fifteen years but when I do use it changed my life and my heart today is that some of you it might start to change the course of yours Sir I was twenty seven when I read the optimize woman by Miranda grade discovered the bleeding obvious my menstrual cycle is so much more than just the presence or absence of my periods
and the hormonal changes I experienced throughout the month are actually four phases strengths and abilities so I can plan for and use go to cycle for a reason and that is why we're here because in an era where we dedicate whole industries to finding balance and direction it's time we started talking about the greatest live track of the mole you'll menstrual cycle is your balance and
direction you have been in the compass and that is a terrible period so how does it work well here's a graph I've had the female hormones change throughout the month starring east Asian pedestrian and testosterone and I'm about there to let Sir you got about five hundred of these in your life sea gonna get them rot and basically week one the way the immense right is
the time for feeling your Cup it's a reflective face resolve to cool it zero fox wait sorry your copies feeling fost is the dynamic phase or when I find myself with fox for days week three begins at ovulation and a cop so overflowing its on his expressive face all the time almost inclined to say I thought yes very much anything and finally wait for the most
maligned phase of old is known as the premenstrual face when I copies quickly deflating we're more inclined to feel like saying form on and I'll explain later whites also called the creative phase Philip Stott beginning when you're close your eyes we hands on your belly rustler how and imagine his self slower hi on the first day of your period and I think he's saying yeah Grice
Harry optimize this and I'm not suggesting that you should spend the whole wake on a couch in a onesie because you got you periods but what I will say is that the revolution all of them will be one with rest and the more you can surrender to the slaughter innocent stillness the more energy you find you have in store for the rest of the whole month
especially in the following facts for dissection sorry yeah the thing to do is to really feel it you're letting go you're letting go possibility of life that luscious nessie been working on all month donated anymore going on the biological bridge pickup I need can also put on the biological roots pick out whatever else you don't need a motion only mentally the reflective menstrual fries is the
time to ask you so how do I want this next month to be different what am I going to grow and give life to next see a priority right now is to make space to listen to nurture yourself and I know it's easy to say and how to do so if you need to ask for help and if someone asks you to do something in this
phase you can say yeah we could say it's just that I would rather do you lie all in a day and in July of bottom line is so that the bottom off of blah and show and when you and when you have zero IC few frocks please do not be guilty also operating on skeleton staff still do whatever it is that you need to do what
he says you need to do it all right now at a hundred percent to go slowly with as much self love as you can trust next week will be different because when you are socket who preach hate always use and as you have rising estrogen levels you guy from washing up in the morning like these well Vera fox to this I fought for decades and damn
it if you are the boss of getting stuff done this is your dynamic face an energetic and outgoing time you are ritually getting ready to drop an ache so you have some shit to do I provided you got enough rest last week in the reflective phase everything nice happening faster talking walking thinking making decisions getting organized a plan for the space to get all the things
done that you postponed their flight to face schedule tasks it Robert of mental and physical energy capacity this is the fries are actually find the most challenging because I can feel my cock filling so fast I can barely keep up and the responsibility of using all of those parks wisely can be a bit overwhelming especially that little kick of testosterone in the so I remind myself
just be brave put one foot in front of the other stop sowing the seeds of saving from last week because she who would days spur she who days this she today yeah yeah swing it daring waiting to speak fabulous you look at yourself and think we got on just getting shit done organized relief mission see all them is the real main if I could just be
like attending so when miss are rewarded for this part of ourselves but I think we all know deep down that pretty tough gig to keep up all monthlong trying to use self when the spice fights and get ready to enjoy the joy and softness of saying five yes the expressive face which begins with ovulation rising progesterone another boosted top upshot of east Asian are you still
riding high on the ass kicking capabilities of the dynamic phase but with a loving fade out efficiency with the sexy chaser more empathy and a greater desire and capacity for connection this is the time you want a plan family dinners rehearsals volunteer work things we are helping other people sometimes I just put my hand up and say I'm gonna flying tough he needs me but do
be aware of the boundaries of his bounty if you leave your expressive judge your diary you promise yourself the rest of the month who knows what else away is not the time to make major commitments like could be the president of the paints a I would love to be your wings surrogate this is not the time to get a puppy and if you see a Facebook
ad with free kittens cover your rights but while you're in these bouncy enjoy it because it's wonderful when everything seems wonderful and sometimes when I can't sleep and I mean the spies are look at my husband I think someone so he's such a beautiful man I just laughing telling I I and that gonna do Sir %HESITATION of %HESITATION wounded please so good to see I'm not
a thing if you want me to know where to get it soon now followed you I'm going to live lack chat so would you every in %HESITATION fees so see and then after a few days is really subtle she to Hey paper Raymond one a lot stretch out fed up do not at a time get comfortable in our hearts good paying these blanket not that didn't
yeah into the creative faced with time on my syncline to feel like saying well there are it's also known as pemex if anyone heard of peace so I got it and the top response was a penis is typically defined by a combination of intense tiredness irritability depression we penis inability to make decisions dropping the physical and mental abilities and and look more likelihood of snapping at
those around you sounds good right and use our he's saying how the hell does anyone live track these not a good situation he is the thing right now you're getting ready for your biological bridge pickup so you're looking at everything through a super critical lands it's not cheap is that what she it's been almost god I can start again there is a frenzy of activity internally
going on at this time where you are getting ready to let go Sofia hold on at the same time to the feelings you had last week and the need to be all things to all people then you will feel like snapping itself this guy's still takes me by surprise sometimes and I have to remind myself to actually take some time out to be creative and that's
what that's what helps me when you start getting the feeling of signing you know it's time for your creative thighs and being creative just mains doing whatever is the most you thing you can do could be writing it could be singing dancing cooking gardening sculpting crafting the washing ten whites before I learned to channel the space I wasted it join a fix other people cleaning skirting
boards with a toothbrush I'm feeling so I put upon when any demands were made of me even months like can you please pass the so but now I channel these and once I became a senior into Russia I use the spies are blocked out two days and if I want to stay up until three AM writing songs than I do and when I die I feel
really ripped off like I've missed an opportunity I get twelve days ya could've written hit some if you take only one thing from this tour please let it be the case when you're premenstrual you're not crazy you are not crazy you know crazy and if you get to know her and fall in love with this part of yourself that so much of the world just doesn't
understand then you will be rewarded with silver linings and untold untapped treasure and if you learn how to use all of these phrases together your life would just be better because the more you understand yourself the better it is you can do whatever you want to do so we have to remember is that were all you have to remember is that when you go in and
the top how many folks have you got yeah when it's when it's rising you go fuck dies get busy when its over flowing spread the love shared around them in a study to decline takes time create explore you can have none saying up to do over again I like to imagine what the world could be like if it was just normal to think about this as
though it was a part of the way we pay attention to ourselves and I actually think we could be really really close but we have to be open about it I talked to our partners at work to ask friends to our children when my son was about three he pushed open the toilet door at the very moment I happen to be removing a time that was
my instincts say I want to push you not shut the door but I didn't any sense arm what if that Melissa Weiner it supplied I told you about I have every month this is one of the ways I can click to Saddam I'm to look and a guy in my instinct is to push him out and shut the door learn the rusted sure any time riding
he looked into and then he looked at many said is it growers and that was the moment that I realized he was reading me he was reading my face house I understand these in a city not actually it's amazing my body strong and healthy in this hell lets me know that if I wanted to I could grow baby ha that's cool I said I know I
eat eSchool yeah caplets I wanna imagine a world where girls grow up not just told how to manage the nuts and bolts of menstruation but actually educated and empowered to know that the cycles our strength and the wisdom and they don't frustrated overwhelmed having to feeding all the time I think that would be pretty cool so got to talk about it stop paying attention start using
